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Not gonna lie, I'm a bit grossed out by the whole 36 year old man marrying a 21 year old he has known for a week. A wee bit yucky isn't it?

And all you have to say about her is her skin color and eye color, what is she a fuckin pokemon? How are you even a professor? And you talk about not wanting somebody to "colonize" you? Dude look in the mirror sometime.

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okay, so what it sounds like is that you state your needs clearly/hold him accountable for his two-faced behavior. Thats not "acting up" (though it should be done in a mature manner).

look, he's not going to propose to you, and would you really want him to at this point? He wouldnt be doing it bc he truly wants to, he'd be doing it to appease you which is an awful way to begin a marriage. I have a feeling this is only one thing of many that isnt working in your relationship

He's 28 and told you to shut the fuck up over a video game? I think you meant 16.

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It strikes me that these are superficial relationships that you are equating to love or loving feelings.

You don't know these women. You only see a glimpse of their life.

These women do not know you. They only see a glimpse of your life.

Therapy is a good start.

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You’re probably right to be honest

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Just so you know, in my experience of which is way too long to talk about I know that people Bragg a lot do so because it’s not true. It’s like building up their own self-esteem. So I would agree with you. I don’t think he can really do that.

As I said, everyone has a past, are you saying it would bother you more to not know what happened than it does to know? What about her? Does she know about your past? Is she allowed to feel the same about you? Honestly, it seems like you’re super immature and, in no way, ready to handle a committed relationship.

Eta: regarding you meeting the other dude. If she purposefully introduced you to him then that’s messed up. But if you were at a party that he happened to be at and she couldn’t avoid the meeting then, again, it happens.

>Of course he doesn't want to go into debt staging a wedding for a marriage that's certain to end in divorce.

I don't get that though because he was the one who was so adamant about getting married two months in, brought it up first and kept pressuring me to agree It'd be in April and even said summer would be too far. I was thinking if he's that into me, and seeing himself married to me after two months, he'd at least want to put some effort in as well.

The purpose of dating is to see if you’re a good fit, not to pick up a project and try to change someone.

Your partner has no business even being in a relationship at this time. They need to be working with a therapist and their doctor and focusing on themselves.

I would recommend that you end things and be one less thing for him to have to worry about while he tackles his mental health—especially given how it’s impacting you.

So he can dish it but can't take it. How do you not see that, that means he does mean the things he calls you? Those aren't "jokes". If they were he would understand you joking back. But he doesn't.

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I don’t know it’s so annoying lol like shut up

If you want to have sex, it’s a necessity. And we all went through it anybody that’s a girl that ever had sex went through it. It hurts the first for me a little bit the second time and then no more and it’s better than fingers.

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>I am aware that at this point of our lives, a lot of us have had a fair share of intimate and sexual experiences, relationships, and flings. I’ve had my fair share.

Break things off. It's not fair for your partner for her to be stuck dating a hypocrite.

Never be so obsessed with sex that you use that as the measuring stick for all of human behavior. Of course one gets with a hookup sooner than they do with someone they actually care about, because if you don't build some trust first then sex with them becomes just a hookup. Unless she told you she was a virgin when you started dating she hasn't really done anything wrong here. You worry too much about what other people think.

I would get mad and say we should split up because out goals do no match. He doesn’t want the same things I want even tho he always insist he does. But nothing happens

That’s pathetic honestly