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I wouldn’t do it. What you did sucked but sucked in proportion to your age and how much you still had to learn. On the other hand, she is still with this man. It is absolutely possible that he has grown up, all is well and the three of you will have a good laugh. It is also possible that things are as abusive as ever and you’ll set of something bad. My advice is to reignite the friendship and see what’s going on before you bring up how abusive you thought her man was in high-school.

Indeed. See a therapist and talk about this stuff. Make sure you talk to your gf. Explain what is bothering you and that you need to step back from the relationship. But make sure you tell her in detail that she did nothing wrong and this is 100% a you problem!!!

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exactly haha but what do I even say next time he does it

Pump the brakes. It hasn't been more than a few months. Red flags are flying today!!

So tell them to shut up about it because wtf are they doing bringjng that up to you. Or you can say okay if you miss it so much go take them back. But it's none of your problem

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He's gaslighting you. At least you know now and not deeper into the relationship. Break it off and try and find someone who respects you and isn't trying to play the field

You’re crazy for staying with him after all the BS. Ps it’s him or me, not him or I.

You can't make him not want to treat you like garbage. If you're choosing to stay with someone who's going to treat you like garbage, that's the choice you're making.

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Red flags allll over.

You’ve known this person for 90 days- are you really willing to commit to spending the next 20-30 years begging him to spend more time with you, fighting over money, not getting any gifts on holidays?

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If you knew that none of the stuff that bothers you about him was going to change, would you be excited about spending your life with him?

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He's not a project car. You either accept him for who he is, or move on. What is sleep hygiene??

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You’re probably right. I think we jumped into a relationship too soon and theres still some things I need to come to terms with in order to have a healthy relationship.

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Stop waiting on her and move on. She’s done with you and waiting for someone else to come along. Sounds like she’s keeping you on the backburner as someone to fall back on in case nothing better comedy along and… is that really what you want for yourself?