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JannaNYC t1_jae9blq wrote

Reply to How do I (F27) deal with my (27M) boyfriend constantly ghosting me? by [deleted]

> I broke up with him before many times because of this same issue but we keep getting back together.

So stop getting back together.

>I feel like he is now taking me for granted because he knows that I'll always be there whenever he returns.

See? You're smarter than you think. You already KNOW how he's manipulating you. Now block him everywhere, and move on with your life. It won't be easy, but you have to break this terribly abusive cycle. This isn't love, this is insanity. You deserve better than this, spend some time trying to figure out why you don't believe that.

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MckittenMan t1_jae96pd wrote

Reply to (29F)(26M) my boyfriend cheated in the most bizarre situation I cannot comprehend. How do I heal? by ThrowRAmistaken65

NGL, that sounds like a delusional 21 year old move to make.

>Still dealing with baby daddy drama from past relationship. And our entire relationship you had another girlfriend.
>
>Sign me up!

Sounds unreally desperate.

And we're sure the baby is not his, right?

I am sorry that you had to find out this way and go through this. But you dodged a massive long term bullet.

The fact your ex is so keen on keeping their relationship going, shows how low of a person he is. I bet he loves the fact that he's got a 21 year old wrapped around his finger. He manipulated you the entire time, and is doing the same to her now. He is not a good person.

That's their problem, and no longer yours.

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Reply to My (M19) boyfriend has pictures of naked girls on his phone and it makes me (NB19) uncomfortable by ThrowRAsocool

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house_ruless OP t1_jae8xrh wrote

Reply to comment by UsuallyWrite2 in I [F26] want to help my partner [m25] change some habits without seeming like I'm shaming him or talking to a brick wall. by house_ruless

I'm not viewing this as a project to try to change him, but I do want to help him grow. He does not have a lot of support in his life and I'm trying to offer him that support. He also didn't/doesn't have much guidance and I am hoping to help with that. He has dreams but hasn't been taught how to be an adult and how to chase those dreams.

He doesn't have a therapist - he had a bad experience with one when he was young. That's something we've discussed a couple of times. I think he will come around to the idea, but it's not a current situation.

This is the first time this has really started impacting me. There have been some bigger life changes recently and I think that may be why. We have a very open communication, so I feel comfortable bringing this up, I just want to make sure I don't come across as judgemental or shaming.

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YourRAResource t1_jae8owb wrote

Reply to comment by ThrowRAPoloDolo in How do I 19M get over my girlfriends 18F past hookups by ThrowRAPoloDolo

This is unfortunately a situation where you need to either accept it or not.

What you need to understand is that this is an absolute non-issue and you're potentially throwing away a great relationship (if that's true) over someone that has no impact on your relationship.

I'm not sure if this will help or not, but anecdotally, I'm a guy and I'm quite happily married. If I'm being honest, I wouldn't objectively say that she's the best sex I've ever had; however, sex with her is absolutely amazing. If she were asked, I doubt I'd be the best either, but again, the sex is great. But am I sitting here ever thinking about them or comparing them? Nope. They're the past. Those guys your girlfriend was with are the past.

Again, you have to believe that she enjoys sex with you, or she wouldn't be with you. You need to be confident in that.

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Well_Jung_One t1_jae8gbb wrote

Reply to F35 M38 3.5yrs advice by Routine_Map2131

I'm sorry because he at least partially means all of the jokes he makes. It sounds like he at least has some narcissistic tendencies too. I'd be careful with him.

Does he ever make self-deprecating jokes? If he does, then I could be a bit wrong on my assessment. Just be careful either way because it seems like something trivial but I personally feel it is indicative of bigger personality issues with him and of a lack of respect for you that may be more deep-seated than you realize.

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