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Reply to Do I (M28) forgive my FWB (F27) for almost seeing someone else? by [deleted]

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Well_Jung_One t1_jaebywf wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in My (28f) boyfriend (28m) told me to "shut the fuck up" while gaming by [deleted]

That changes my opinion. If he talks like that to people like service workers, then there is truly a bigger issue. I truly feel that people who mistreat people like service workers/wait staff/etc and/or animals are not good people at heart. If he truly is like this with service workers, then I take it all back. You have a legit reason to be concerned that he is hiding deeper anger issues that will one day be directed at you... and, in my random opinion (without really knowing the person) he's not a good person deep down inside.

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Reply to My (28F) husband (29M) wants to go to a multi-day bachelor / bachelorette party by throwaway_just12938

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house_ruless OP t1_jaebukg wrote

Reply to comment by Witch_on_a_moped in I [F26] want to help my partner [m25] change some habits without seeming like I'm shaming him or talking to a brick wall. by house_ruless

That's what I mean, if that doesn't work, then you can get something like a prescription or OTC sleep medication.

He doesn't expect me to do any of that, but I would like to be able to help him. I don't want to just stand to the side and let him wallow when there are steps we can take together to make his wallowing a bit less deep.

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propsandpaws t1_jaebo3m wrote

Reply to I (27F) broke up with my boyfriend (27M) of 4 years after he said he wasn't ready to live with me. Have I made the right decision? by Ill-Inspector3071

Have you ever heard the term “love isn’t always enough”? Well, it’s true. Sometimes you can care a lot for a person, but you don’t want the same things, you’re not in the same place, or someone isn’t ready to make a step that the other is. It’s always okay to leave. It shows that you have self worth for the things you want and are looking for. It’s possible that you guys can continue to communicate on this. His fears are in a way reasonable if you’ve been fighting, regardless if this is the main cause. Either way, I wish you peace! Just remember that you are capable of loving, and being loved in return. It’s always important to stand your ground with your needs, and you’ve shown yourself that.

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propsandpaws t1_jaebmw9 wrote

Reply to I (27F) broke up with my boyfriend (27M) of 4 years after he said he wasn't ready to live with me. Have I made the right decision? by Ill-Inspector3071

Have you ever heard the term “love isn’t always enough”? Well, it’s true. Sometimes you can care a lot for a person, but you don’t want the same things, you’re not in the same place, or someone isn’t ready to make a step that the other is. It’s always okay to leave. It shows that you have self worth for the things you want and are looking for. It’s possible that you guys can continue to communicate on this. His fears are in a way reasonable if you’ve been fighting, regardless if this is the main cause. Either way, I wish you peace! Just remember that you are capable of loving, and being loved in return. It’s always important to stand your ground with your needs, and you’ve shown yourself that.

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Gordossa t1_jaebk2f wrote

Reply to I (F26) having a hard time making my partner (f29) grow up! by Crafty_Train1497

You don’t. This is who he is. You can’t date someone for who they might become. You date them for who they are. You walked passed all the glaring red flags and now here you are. How much of your life are you going to sacrifice for this immature man baby?? Why have you allowed yourself to be treated like this?

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house_ruless OP t1_jaebim8 wrote

Reply to comment by NDaveT in I [F26] want to help my partner [m25] change some habits without seeming like I'm shaming him or talking to a brick wall. by house_ruless

That's why I took notes last night. I want to make sure I say all that has been rattling around in my head and not forget something. But I also want to hear his side and have a conversation. Then if he isn't willing to even try, I can evaluate. But I want to make sure I'm approaching it with kindness and not making it a "you are wrong" kind of conversation. That doesn't help anyone, myself included.

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