So the woman you are using for sex because you aren’t capable of making a commitment is having a conversation with somebody she knew before you met her and you think that you are in the position to decide if she deserves your forgiveness?

You should leave her alone for her sake. Who knows what you think you will be entitled to if you actually deigned to call her a girlfriend

But they are not in a relationship...this is ridiculous

ive heard there are two sep sections, one for friends and one for dating.

I live with my abuser and have seemed professional help. On top of that due to my means; I have no way to leave my current living situation. I’m surviving currently.

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Most people would love to get out of having to sit through a long graduation ceremony. He’s having a “pick me” moment. I wouldn’t entertain it. He’s being ridiculous.

Reason I asked is because a lot of times relationships with people with severe mental health issues ends up being incredibly one-sided. Her condition is not going to get better. If this kind of behavior makes you feel "loved" then you probably need to reevaluate. You feeling bad for her during this shows a great deal of compassion but, this is wildly unacceptable behavior as a partner.

A dog can make you feel loved and be there for you when no one else is.

She has acted exactly how she will act for probably her whole life. This will VERY likely be a cycle that she does with you until she dies. If you like it/can handle it.. great then stay with her. Your choice.

I’ve tried to get professional help but I live with my trauma abuser. When I try to pull away he threatens to call the police on that person. He’s the first person I’ve told of the stuff going on at home

Hey self worth is hard to cultivate and easy to forget about. You can work on that single and/or with a guy who doesn't see you as a project he's working on in his spare time.

OP wants the B but not the relationship, doesn’t work that way

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Yeah I'll do that

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Because I feel so scared of him non-commitment I start finding reasons why we shouldn’t be together

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I like having separation between my work day and my personal life, this would interrupt that and also interrupt my work day, I feel like most people feel the same? I’d call wanting to talk while I’m at work is a red flag. It feels like checking to make sure I’m actually at work.

Lol not your friend, what he doing is mad predatory idc. Watch how he’s gonna call you homophobic now

If you're into hookup culture then history comes with the territory, if you're not into hookup culture then don't date someone who is if you want to avoid these kinds of situations.

Edit. Oh, nevermind I just managed to parse the following from your wall of text (paragraphs are your friends) - you are into hookup culture, so you're just being a hypocrite:

>I’ve had my fair share.

Right, but it is now moot. You can't dump her for cheating on you as she already moved on. It's called 'monkey branching'. You don't let go of one branch until you have a good grip on the next. She let go of your branch. Shake her off and upgrade to the non-cheating type of gf.

That dog is bored and misses their mom... I know it sounds stupid but try to put yourself into the dogs... shoes? Paws? Dogs have a daily routine, if your friend is fine enough to have a phone call, ask her about it... if she's too sick, make one yourself. Go for walks, alot of walks, long walks. Let the dog sniff around for stimulation. You can very easily DIY some fidget toys with treats and old towels or a dollar tree blanket or depending on the size of the dog, empty toilet paper rolls even.

Make sure to tell your friend to never ask you for this favor ever again though.... some people are not empathetic enough for pets... not ment to attack you, my best friend literally hates all animals unless they're on a plate, she got other qualities 🤷‍♀️

So I can talk to other girls in my relationships and fall in love with them than not tell my partner and dump them? Sounds great doesn't it?

I hear they have things called 'therapists' that can help..might just be a rumor though. I hear they can help with all this past trauma. again, might just be a rumor generated by social media

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