Thank you! I felt sooo old when reading this post, my brain just kept whispering “I’m too old for this shit”. Exclusive FWB? Caught feelings, moving towards a serious romantic relationship but not there yet? Like what is that? How does that work in real life? I’m exhausted just thinking about it.

Edit: damn I saw the ages. They are not as much younger than me as I thought. Not sure what to do with this information

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This is square peg/round hole territory. If your girlfriend is of a monogamous nature it's always going to be a problem for her that you're sleeping with other people. This is not a failing on her part, this is her orientation. The bottom line is that if you're truly poly, which you may not even know for sure yet as what you describe isn't classic "polyamory", you can't date monogamous people. What you're having now is just a one-sided open relationship. If you truly want polyamory you need to have it with other polyamorous people (wherein both you and they have other committed partners).

i made posts like this 4 years ago when i started dating my (now) fiancée. i wanted to help her make any changes that would help with any of her symptoms of depression. i got the same advice you're seeing here.

we're still going strong because I put myself in therapy, so that I could do everything in my power to help MYSELF. cause that's the only thing i can control. it seems to have boiled down to "i accept her for everything she is/does" and i work on myself, so i can be supportive, no matter what.

Advice on how to deal with the situation. Because we obviously do not want to end things. And I don’t want to hurt her. But I still think it’s an unfair ask.

Communication is the foundation of any relationship. The better it is the better results you can expect. Alternatively, the inability to communicate will doom a relationship. You’ll be miserable trying to walk on eggshells from now on.

The options you have are either fix it, deal with it, or leave. If she won’t accommodate to fix it, can you love with it going forward? If you can’t, then you have 1 option left; leave. Best of luck.

Call me a grandma, but what in the euphoria hell is an ‘exclusive fwb’?

Either you’re in a relationship, and sexually and emotionally committed to each other (assuming monogamous), or you’re not exclusive and just have sex. In that case that’s not your gf/bf, they don’t owe you anything, and you should wear a condom regardless so of whether you’re ‘exclusive’ or not.

She likes some guy and had emotional connection with him, as is her right as a single woman. If you feel hurt by that you don’t have to put up with her or anything. But there’s no ‘forgiving’ here. She hasn’t don’t anything that may warrant forgiveness, if you think that you’d be entitled

Why would you have options if your committed to someone?

I think you should marry him because your family likes him. Don't worry about the fact you hate him, so long as your family likes him, who cares, right?

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You're FWBs. You're not in a relationship. Sure, I guess you could agree to be sexually exclusive, for STD purposes. But you're still just friends and therefore allowed to text or go out with whoever you want.

Man that's the type of reply I was looking for, not to confirm my feelings, just from someone who dealt with it and came out the other end. He does indeed struggle with anxiety and the occasional panic attacks. I never truly put it together that it translate into such erratic behaviour. He's trying to get off his meds too with his doctor but I feel that guy is downplaying quite some symptoms.

Therapy spots are extremely hard to come by here, we actually already talked about it last time he had a panic attack. I will just slightly nudge a bit more to at least start looking together. There is some urgency since we have our first kid on the way and I want him to go into it with a bit more focused mindset. Thanks a lot for comment.

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You could, but it's not exactly what friends do.

If it's just a few more days, suck it up and deal with it. Take the dog for walks, tire it out.

How did you find out? Did you go snooping through her phone without her knowledge. If so, you are a piece of shit and should just let her go with someone that respects her.

Someone suggested getting rover to do some walks. I don’t really have time during the day so that might help!

Of course she can and I’d love for her to go. The issue that caused the argument is that she says that if she decides not to go. Then I can’t go without her.

Sorry, I forgot to mention that we were together for 3 months before we became long distance. And visit eachother every 3 months or so. But anyways, I completely agree. I just hope I have the strength to do what's necessary if the time comes. Thank you so much

>I made the biggest mistake of my life, and I don’t know how to fix this (26F)(26M) submitted by ThrowRAJnphr

>My ex and I stayed together for 11 years and I broke up with him 4 months ago. Nothing wrong with him, he’s absolutely amazing, but we started dating when we were too young, he was already talking about marriage, and we had never experienced being with anyone else other than each other. I love him a lot, but I needed to make sure I wouldn’t feel like missing out if we get married. We still see each other often, we have the same friends group, but things are awkward between us now since the break up.

>I recently started casually seeing someone else, and all my friends told me my ex was really hurt when he heard about it, they say he spent the whole week crying. Turns out the guy I was seeing was a huge *sshole for many reasons, and I don’t need to date anyone else to know I made possibly the biggest mistake of my life.

>I really want to get back with my ex, but he’s avoiding me. As far as I know, he hasn’t even tried to date anyone else yet, but I don’t know if he would get back with me. To make things worse, the guy I was seeing made sure to tell my ex every detail of what we did, just to hurt him. He sent him some really disgusting and disrespectful text messages saying that he f* me (his words), and it only gets worse. I know about the text messages because a mutual close friends of ours told me and showed me the screenshots.

>I don’t know how to fix the mess I made, I really don’t know what to say or where to start.

The only way to know if he wants to get back together is to ask him.

I caution you against it, though. If you felt like talking marriage at age 26 after 11 years together was too soon and wanted to be with other people, then that hasn't changed just because you dated someone who turned out to be an asshole.

she is the one who doesn't want a relationship.