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Reply to My (26M) girlfriend (24F) wants me to propose before we move in together because it's against her family beliefs by Tomatomir

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GuideAggravating6455 OP t1_jaewdlf wrote

Reply to comment by derangermouse in I (F23) kissed him (M25) a year ago and I still dont know how to talk about it by GuideAggravating6455

Thanks for advicing me. It’s really a vicious circle for me to get stuck because of the time I spent talking about it with him, but time still passes, making it even stranger to talk about it After, and time passes... Thats why it has been a year.

To talk about it, I really considered just screen my post, do u think a good way ?

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forget-me-not-37 t1_jaew9mn wrote

Reply to I can't keep up with my partner financially and it's extremely stressful. Advice needed. (M28, F26) by Oatmealtuesdays

You are a team and sometimes not everything is going to be clearly 50/50. What I do personally is calculate the difference in salary between my partner and I. I make 70% more so I’m paying 70% of the expenses.

What if your BF gets fired would you still force him to split everything or would you cover for him? Splitting everything doesn’t really make sense sometimes.

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Pane502 t1_jaew8ae wrote

Reply to comment by yowen2000 in [35M] My girlfriend’s [36F] texting behavior has changed, and Im not sure how to respond. by [deleted]

It is possible. That why I was thinking of asking to see her messages.. If she is too busy to text me I'm assuming she is too busy to text others.. I'm open to being wrong. It's just lately it seems like is more than “too busy”. It feel like more indifference.

Also I know for a fact she prefers to use FB on her phone and Messenger is her default texting app.

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houseofreturn t1_jaew4yr wrote

Reply to How should I (25F) approach the 3rd time asking my boyfriend (25M) to call me more during the day throughout the week? by Practical-Doughnut86

Dude…you need to chill out. You’re getting snarky and defensive at all the comments, some of which have genuine advice they he may not WANT to call you while he’s working. You’re apparently 25, don’t you have your own life that would be slightly impeded if he were calling you mid-day, every single day? Look if you’re in a long distance situation, I get needing some validation that he’s available for you, but you guys text throughout the day right? I really think you should let this be. Maybe try to compromise with once a week on his lunch break. I’ll give you advice, I live with my boyfriend but our schedules conflict a lot and I don’t get to see him half as much as I want to, and I learned to manage my emotions and be okay with that. I get cute texts and tik toks while he’s on break, he gets cute texts and voicemails from me (he specifically asked I leave him voicemails so he can listen to the sound of my voice without having to interrupt his work flow to take a call). Compromise is key, find a way this works for both of you. You need to do some maturing if you think it can be your way and your way only in a relationship.

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Reply to My fiancé (27m) is cold and distant after a fight with me (25f) and it’s causing me so much anxiety. How can I fix this by Ok-Independence-3193

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UsuallyWrite2 t1_jaew06w wrote

Reply to [35M] My girlfriend’s [36F] texting behavior has changed, and Im not sure how to respond. by [deleted]

So your idea after noticing a change of 2 days is to demand to invade her privacy?

Couldn’t you instead just tell her you’ve noticed a different and ask her what’s up?

I think the whole thing is ridiculous and that you’re being weird about it—especially at your age. But you get to feel how you feel.

I would absolutely end things if my partner was expecting me to text all day and in a certain amount of time.

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