@-@ This is part of what my brain is telling me but idk… just the not-knowing part is what’s making it unbearable

I had to bear the news alone that our daughter may not survive outside the womb and he was too drunk to come to the hospital. I think I had a right to be upset. But my reaction was not ok.

So…asked and answered. If that’s not a sufficient reason for you then date someone else.

Busy doesn’t mean she can’t do whatever she wants in her free time. Maybe she has a friend in crisis that she’s chatting with. Maybe she just doesn’t have much to say during the day to you.

If you ask to look at her phone though, that’s nuts.

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I think apologizing is a wonderful gesture. Maybe invite her out for tea or coffee and do it in person.

As far as I know,he currently not involved in a relationship,and he never said about wanting a relationship,we both consider us as friends

Also your 18, these are not the best years neither are they the only best years of your life

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So there are two ways to handle this, both however require you to stick to your budget and stop agreeing to activities without knowing all costs upfront.

1. You sit down with him and go over your income and how this spending is impacting you and if he still doesn't get it you leave

2)Skip step 1 and you leave the guy who clearly has next to no compassion for your situation, he calls you cheap and doesn't question anything? not a single can you afford this? or are you doing alright with money maybe I can cover more dinner or we can go to places we can both afford comfortably or hey here is this free thing to do.

Go if you are going more for your education. Of course being with your bf is a plus but shouldn't be the main reason. Also definitely consider being independent of him. Like living on your own, having your own friends, financially separated etc.

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Give your fiancé some space and time to process his feelings. It’s normal to be distant and cold after such a heated argument, and pushing him to be affectionate or communicative might only make things worse. Instead, show him through your actions that you are committed to making things right.

Let him know that you're willing to listen to him when he's ready to talk, but don't pressure him to open up before he's ready.

Until then, focus on taking care of yourself and your baby.

You help him by leaving him alone to let him get through this on his own.

You are very manipulative and selfish.

Talk yourself off the ledge that is "I demand to invade your privacy" (look at her messages), your relationship will go nowhere good after that.

Maybe just see how the next few days go, if this new trend continues, ask her again why the change and see if you can push for a better explanation.

Also, her texting behavior aside, have you noticed any other problems in your relationship?

I don’t. His FB says he’s single but that doesn’t mean he is.

Doesn’t sound like she thinks she’s a FWB.

Dump her explicitly. In person. Then block her on social media and chat. Move on.

So I should first study in here and then go to Germany for him?

Check his phone.

He's at work. Working. You are presumably also at work. Working.

Do you really need to talk to each other on the phone during the working day? Presumably you talk extensively during the evenings.

If we're being honest, unless you work at the same place, you aren't part of his work day. That's nothing to be surprised about: even if you were married and living together, you still wouldn't be part of his work day, and vice-versa.

Consider that some employers are also a bit funny about people using their personal phones in the workplace; whilst your employer may be totally okay with you sending personal messages regularly during the day, his employer may not.

Generally speaking, personal communication during the working day is usually reserved for emergencies.

Again I'm not expecting texting all day! I want too know what's up with the behavior changed... I asked her alreadyand she just said busy. But this feels like more than just “busy”.

Does he have a girlfriend?

There is some but they are always bitterly short, at least for me. He feels he cannot last long when we'd do certain foreplay acts.

And with that information, you returned to him??

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You do not want to move to Germany and move into his house. That’s a great way to get trapped.

I suggest you move to Germany only if you have an independent reason to move to Germany, like you want to go to school there or have job prospects.

Here are some red flags:

• you are not even in college and he’s saying these are the “best years”. They aren’t. Your “best years” are ahead of you and will comprise a lifetime.

• you’ve been dating long distance for three years. There is no substitute for IRL interaction. Basically a long distance relationship with limited IRL interaction is the same thing as getting set up on a blind date when it comes to dating.

• you don’t have any plans to become an independent person regardless of what happens. If you can’t be independent, you ae going to be a poor partner for your future mate.