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Vofz OP t1_jaexjca wrote

Reply to comment by International-Aside in I (24m) have a crazy clingy ex FWB(23f). What's the proper way to get rid of someone like that? I've tried but I always end up feeling guilt by Vofz

Okay maybe thiis is worse than I thought but I never intentionally took advantage of her. Despite the fact that she does all that crazy stuff, she seems normal outside of all this, she has a professional career and has a decent job. Normal social life and many friends. We aren't talking about an insane non functioning person here

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SugarGlitterkiss t1_jaexj6x wrote

Reply to My (26M) girlfriend (24F) wants me to propose before we move in together because it's against her family beliefs by Tomatomir

You know, you're pretty much past the proposal part. One of you has proposed living together, she's basically proposed you get married if you want that to happen, and you said no.

You're at at impasse, so unless she can accept a marriage proposal from you and agree to live together as an engaged couple (for at least a year, with a firm date to either set a wedding date or break up) it sounds like this isn't going to work.

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Ok-Independence-3193 OP t1_jaexitm wrote

Reply to comment by derangermouse in My fiancé (27m) is cold and distant after a fight with me (25f) and it’s causing me so much anxiety. How can I fix this by Ok-Independence-3193

Thank you. I feel like these pregnancy emotions are ruining my relationship. I’m so reactive lately but the medication I started has helped a lot. I don’t get upset so easily anymore. I’ve kind of just let things go at their own pace. Things are better but I can tell this time, I hurt him.

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Reply to I (F18) sometimes wonder what life would be like if i were single. I am in a healthy relationship with (M19) by Candid_Birthday1769

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ThrowRaKokiele OP t1_jaexen4 wrote

Reply to comment by Interesting-Month-56 in Should I (18F) move out to my boyfriend's (18M) country or stay here? by ThrowRaKokiele

We have met multiple times during we have dated and I am planning to move to Germany anyways at some point in life since it's my biggest dream to live in there. I don't see what others time could be the best years in life than the years in university since during university life there is still relatively much freetime and all.

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Waste_Vegetable8974 t1_jaex93w wrote

Reply to comment by Stormy_Sol in How can I (F33) help my boyfriend (M36) understand that s3x shouldn't always be about PIV? by Stormy_Sol

Hmm. I think that you have to get him to engage in a difficult conversation here and I'm afraid I don't know how you can start it. But you have to make him listen and understand that he's being very unfair in denying you personal satisfaction from your relationship. At least with the foreplay stuff you have a starting point as he already does that and should be willing to extend it for your benefit. Then take one very small step at a time into your new sexual world.

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rokman t1_jaex3pf wrote

Reply to comment by forget-me-not-37 in I can't keep up with my partner financially and it's extremely stressful. Advice needed. (M28, F26) by Oatmealtuesdays

This is just because I work with math and finance and while you’re system is a good place to start it should consider your expendable money after income and normal living expenses, for example if all have 20K of expenses somebody who makes 30k has $10k to use and somebody who makes 40k has 20 to use so with this example it should be split 2/3 1/3 were your system would be 25/75

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anxiousanonxyz OP t1_jaex2as wrote

Reply to comment by Cabbage_Patch_Itch in My (26F) boyfriend (28M) wants us to stay in a hoarder home? by anxiousanonxyz

Oh no, I wouldn’t have an issue if it was just a little messy. The kitchen isn’t even useable because of so much stuff, there is only pathways to get around, along with three cats, and being a mobile home it’s just…. rough. I feel bad and try to be gentle with the subject because of it being his mom, but with this I just don’t know what to do.

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Reply to [27F] wants to stay friends after ending things with me [25M]. She’s being weird? by atdigiacomo

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XesLanaLear t1_jaewx1t wrote

Reply to My spouse ( M42) is flirting with my daughter’s daycare staff(F37?) What can be a smart action on my end? by Katie2017Y

I mean, with that PS on top 100% he's probably sleeping with her already the way you describe it.

If you're already filing to end the marriage, discretely film her flirting inappropriately with your husband and report her to the daycare administration.

They'll probably still find ways to see each other. But your daycare won't be involved. And it may push him to help you expedite your split.

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