I "plan" to propose in a few months in the case that we will live together and confirm to each other that we can manage to live together, without anyones support/meddling and without wanting to "kill eachother" after being stuck together for 24H every day straight 😅 I find it a necessary step for a relationship that any couple should face before considering marriage..

Don’t tell me to chill out, I’m genuinely upset by these comments because they are assuming things that literally are not true. I appreciate your comment because you are actually giving me advice and not assuming that I’m “crazy” or “incredibly insecure” so thank you for that💕.

1. I do not text my boyfriend 100 times a day. Not even close. We send about 10 texts a day MAX. Because yes, I work.. and so does he. I don’t FORCE my boyfriend to text me everyday, that’s just us. But I don’t force him. I’m not desperate.

2. My boyfriend and I do NOT call/ ft everyday. And when we do, it’s not a “requirement”. I don’t force him to call me. As I said before, we usually FaceTime 2, sometimes 3 days out of the week, but ONLY at night to watch shows together. I simply just would like a call here and there during the DAY. I never said I NEED him to call me while he is at work every single day. I just asked that he sometime call me on his way home from work for no reason, just to chat. Or on his way home from the gym. Just to add some spontaneity to it. I don’t need a call every day, or even every other day. Just at least once a week. I wasn’t the one that suggested he call on his break, he said that he would. And tbh it hurt my feelings that he said he would do something, and didn’t because I wouldn’t do that to him. And I just don’t know what to do with the hurt feelings because I know it’s petty, when all else is fine in our relationship but I can’t lie, it hurt my feelings.

Also, we do not live together and only see one another on the weekends

That's exactly how I feel. I don't want to pull him away from her either. I'm afraid I might end up alone if i set a boundary that makes him resent me or makes it an ultimatum. I don't want either.

Girl no. Stop. This isn’t worth saving. You are worth so much more.

I appreciate this insight. I know he had no way of knowing that I would go to the ER that night but it hurt me so much being alone and receiving this news about our daughter, and having nobody with me

He does say that if I don't want to move in with them then we won't, but it's always with a feeling of hesitation. Things with him and his mom are complicated. She died a few years ago and was revived and ever since then he can't seam to imagine a life without her in it. I'm not saying cut her off at all before anyone jumps there, I'm just meaning it as he adores her and loves her and can't put her at arms length now. He doesn't like how extreme she has gotten but he will humor her and let her talk however with no word of "that's a bit hurtful" or anything else. When she leaves the room him and his father jokingly say "Everything is the devil, (insert name)" and carry on as nothing happened.

Um, hell no!!

I wasnt upset about him going to his sisters - I was upset that he got too drunk to come up to the ER and I had to bear the news that our daughter may not be viable outside the womb. It was rough.

Since my relationship with my sons father (abuser) I have always thought leaving and protecting myself from hurt was the solution. It isn’t and I feel so horribly that I’ve made him feel this way in the past.

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Wooo. It sounds like you indeed are trying to make waves (username does not check out lmao). My petty side likes how you think!

YES to all of this. At one point in the texts she was even like “technically I gave you the eggs you have” and “you can pick the gender yourself”

Shit is absolutely wild and I am convinced she’s not in her right mind rn.

Germany’s a decent enough country.

Was any proof offered? Do you have any way of verifying this?

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Honestly that really depends on you because it's different for everyone. But 18 isn't really it for most people

Communicate with him. Tell him your actual income and left over amount you have for disposable income after all your expenses are paid. Stop turning down his offers. He wants to spend time with you and share experiences for you, you declining is silly, he has the money and he wants to spend it on/with you. You're being overly proud and hurting yourself, your relationship and your partner as a result.

I truly just wanted to see how other people would handle this situation.

How would you support yourself financially then? Rely on your parents on him? Honestly for me 50/50 is not good enough of a ratio.

I went through something similar in the past she would always hang the threat of leaving when ever an argument didn't go her way.

You don't know how much damage you do to the person who loves you the anxiety it puts on them apart from feeling abandoned.

now that it happened to you it feels terrible doesn't it? arguments should not be the reason you leave every time.

If he loves you then give him time, also try and slowly fix the issue. no one wants to be in a relationship where the person can easily pack and leave every time.

He is at his sisters house not at a club or meeting some random woman. let him stay as long as he wants. my wife had a similar problem my brother and I are of similar age 1 year apart his house is about half a mile from mine so like a kid I ride a bike and stop by.

I drink and play pool or we play video games like kids we don't do it everyday, but it is often 1-2 times a week.

her problem was me coming home 1-2am which to me doesn't matter all that much im not doing anything bad. specifically since I do spend a lot of my time with her and even when we are both home she makes herself busy doing something she likes which is talking on the phone with her friends or playing a game which leaves no space for me to come an interrupt her it would probably bother her at the time.

otherwise we spend a lot of time together. she let the argument go since everyone told her it shouldn't be a big deal her friends know me and know I am not the type to go messing around.

judging from your clearly experiential prejudices and the lengthy assumptions you have made about me regardless of what I actually wrote, I hope you find the help you obviously need.

That’s a good question… We’ve been married almost five years and I thought I loved him. I guess I still do love him, but I’m not quite sure why anymore. He’s showing his true colors and I now know where I stand on his priority list. I just need to accept it and cut my losses.

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You probably won’t want to hear this, but there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re at a point in your life where your world is expanding. You can be happy with one guy but still be interested in another.

You’re 18. Your personal growth brain centers are firing on full blast. Give yourself a break. If you want to venture out, it’s up to you. If not, wait for the feeling to pass.

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