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Then it's weird and very rude that he would ghost someone who is supposed to be his friend. Do you really want someone that treats you so poorly in your life?

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Fuck no.

If you were truly happy you wouldn't have had an emotional affair with another guy there's no fixing this he will move on and find someone who values him and not hurt him the way you did.

His experience would be very different from this commenters as his PTSD would not be complex. It has been generated from a one off event, not years of abuse or military service. It's a non-complex case.

If hubby refuses any medical care that makes things much more difficult and he could continue to suffer from this for many years to come, the longer you wait the worse it gets.

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Here's what might be a novel idea.

Stop answering her calls.

Stop responding to her messages.

If you see her in public, walk the other way.

Block every avenue of contact she could possibly use to get ahold of you.

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And for the love of whatever gods you believe in, stop fucking her.

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PTSD from a one off event (clinically: non-complex PTSD) like this is very easily treated with EMDR therapy. It would likely not even be a terribly long process as, again, this is from a one off event.

If your husband suffers with multiple mental health disorders and seeks no treatment for any of them that is a bigger issue.

No, I wasn’t even friends with the other guy anymore. I was truly happy on the path I had chosen and was getting my life together.

there's plenty of "functional" alcoholics, or "functional" depressives. That doesnt negate their struggle whatsoever. The mental illness(es) are still present.

Now it is possible that her coo-coo bananas behavior is a ploy to get your attention, however, that wouldnt make the situation any better. She'd still be deranged and self-harming. She's so not okay even if she's able to mask in certain situations.

Now, thats not to say that her blatant disregard for your boundaries is okay. Its in fact very NOT okay. When you end things, do it very clearly, be clear that you want no contact going forwards. Then block her on everything. The very first time she finds a way to circumvent that, tell her in message form to stop or you will call the police for harassment. The second time she contacts you, follow through with doing so.

To fight for us what a joke if that other guy didn't contact him you will still be cheating on him

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Rely on your parents or on him. Just misspelled a word.

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Does it mean I should go though?

She also gave you your limbs does she want one of those back? Like wtf. Nice try with the “you can choose the gender.” What a generous offer!

She’s probably spiraling about aging out of her fertile years, keeping her husband locked down (although he doesn’t sound like a prize), and the idea that she can “do it right” this time. Although given how she’s behaving I don’t see her as more mature than anyone on Teen Mom.

She’s going to keep pushing so please feel free to ignore her and any flying monkeys she sends to you.

Really seems like you don’t want help, but want support and compliments from others to coddle you into feeling better about yourself without having to do anything to change yourself and work on healing the base problems you have. If that’s what you want then go to r/freecompliments or r/toastme

Okay

I don't know how I could support myself financially yet. And what do you mean by "Rely on your parents on him?" I don't understand the meaning of this sentence.

It was put as a "we go in on this together and in 5 years one couple buys the other out and the bought out couple gets their own place." It seemed like a good idea until now. I don't want 5 years of having to hide myself

I have never split bills with dates. I ask for a separate bill when I order, that way I only pay for what I order. Before I tell the wait staff what I will eat, I say "mine will be on a separate check". You need to speak up in the beginning.

Sometimes I go out with friends or family just to spend time with them at a restaurant I don't like and will just order fries, soup, or side salad. I don't like to waste money on food I don't like. Everyone I eat with will say separate check or the two of us are on one check. It isn't a big deal at all. Restaurants and bars are used to it.

You need to tell your BF how much you make, why keep it a secret? He may have no idea that you are struggling.

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