I'd say going to Germany has more pros and less cons than staying in Korea. In Germany Could study with no tution fees and the education level there is good + I anyways plan to live there at some point in life.

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That’s the plan.

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I did a ldr for that many years. We had spent time a handful of times. I relate to many things you felt. I commend you for willing to move to him. The fact that he wasn't ready for it. Is more on him than you.

How many years do you want to keep this going?

Me and my ex lived worlds apart. He expected me to give up everything to move to him and didn't want to make any concessions...oh wait, he was willing to make one: he would swallow his pride and marry me to "make me happy". His sacrifice to marry me was his big self sacrifice.

What an asshole. I regret meeting him.

You have to live your life and make new experiences.

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Give him space, go to therapy if you can, and figure out why decide to have an emotional affair while you were happy with your ex-boyfriend.

Yo, stop. Leave and start anew.

He’s all polite and decent before this ghosting and blocking event ,so I’m really confused,It hunts me around all day

So you do realize what you are asking of her? And it is whatever? If she loses her family support and you don’t propose AND marry her, it seems like she has a lot to lose on your living habits and expectations.

Living together or a long engagement/relationship is no guarantee of a happy and long marriage. She has a lot to lose; her family. She could do everything right and be the perfect living mate by most standards and you can still decide “you want to unalive her” bc she doesn’t put out the recycling the way you would have liked or she chews to loudly. That is a big risk for her and if she were my friend I would advise her against the risk.

I moved in the week of my wedding and have been married for 14ish years so I guess I am biased and don’t understand wanting to set up house with someone who would not commit and was willing to see me risk my family who supports me.

It’s emotional blackmail. Please read this: https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/what-to-do-if-your-partner-threatens-suicide/

You’re not responsible, on any level, for what he does after the theoretical breakup. You may feel guilty, but it’s unfounded. I have been in therapy for 20 years, I have severe depression, anxiety, and I also take medication for ADHD.

If he doesn’t want to do the work, something about his status quo has to change. Unfortunately it might be losing you that is finally the catalyst he needs to improve. He wants to be a stubborn man, that’s on him.

So list out some pros and cons other than your bf and come back an reexamine whether you want to go.

It was removed because I used something f against the rules before. Lol

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Your post was removed because it doesn't fit the subreddit. Stop reposting it.

Move out. Your mom is not your responsibility, especially since she does not view you as an adult.

I mean it has to do with a mother daughter relationship.

It is her will. And it's been your will to stay with a girl who follows her family rules. It sounds like you might not have made the best choice for yourself.

It sounds more like you have come up with a reason to keep yourself in this relationship. What he does or does not do is actually outside of your control. If you divorce him and then he decides to take his own life that's his decision not yours.

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You are correct. I’ve always thought he deserves someone much better than me. I love him and I want him to be happy.

I honestly don't know, at the same time I'd feel guilty at the fact how much my parents would have to pay for my university in South Korea

Except this sub is for relationship advice and you are not asking for relationship advice.