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You think this “sad guy online stalker” act reflects the type of guy that your ex would be interested in?

I agree.

Thank you this makes so much sense. :)

Reading some of your previous posts does add some insight into your relationship with your ex.

I don’t even want to talk cheating. The premise of the gathering is disrespectful.

Yeah, thats a pretty big red flag, sorry. Thats a make him clarify or dump his ass

How is she nice when she blocked you and was with another guy for your, I would assume, relationship? Or did you just think yall were together?

Why on earth would you want her back? She cheated on you and doesn't care. That's in your own words. Move on. Don't talk to her again.

Being poly isn't a sexuality that you might or might not be. It's a choice.

You want to have sex with other people, whether that's important enough to you to discuss with your wife is up to you.

Fuck yeah.

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I can't. She was the nicest person I ever met. I just can't give up yet. Not until she tells me it's really over

This is a bullshit gathering. How would he react to YOU doing something similar? The disrespect here is off the charts.

Any and all responses by you are on the table. Your bluff is being called.

It doesn't sound that vague to me. It seems like she wants him to improve his daily communication, this can be just being open to talking about his day, plans for the upcoming week ect..If he isn't doing that about himself it seems like he's also not that easy to open up to even about little things like her day. It's also infuriating if you ask your partner questions like what do you want for dinner, what would you like to watch tonight? And they constantly say they don't know or care, putting the onus completely on her to plan things.

Then when she does, it sounds like he doesn't communicate that he sees and appreciates what she does. If he can't handle daily conversation then he absolutely can't handle serious ones which is where her breakup comment came from. Imagine telling your partner you're thinking of breaking up and he doesn't say anything of value to help the issues. How can you move forward when you know any tough talks result in a one sided conversation. This wouldn't fly with me, you deserve an equal partner and he's absolutely not being that.

Will bring it up! Thank you

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"Thanks for your concern about my family but I have nothing to say about them right now."

"Oh, can't talk now, I'm busy. Bye." and then walk off.

"I'm not going to discuss them with you any more as you weren't nice about them before."

So being nice is often letting them be dicks. Call them out on it, gently. Sure they'll possibly get uppity about it, but tell them goodbye and walk off. You owe them absolutely nothing even if they are your neighbours, they're not treating you nicely. Don't set yourself on fire so they can be warm.

Build up a stack of these one line answers and pull them out regularly. Stop engaging with them as much as possible. They're being miserable and misery loves company, so don't let them be miserable to you

This is hard as we're conditioned to be nice from a young age, but have some boundaries and stick to them.

Good luck.

Moving in together too quickly may be true, but I do want to make the efforts to improve as a partner because I care.

She knows about the side effects, but I don’t think they realize it may take some compromising when I’m feeling very little etc.

I have brought up her going to get a diagnosis but they don’t want to because it may be expensive and they believe they can cope on their own. Hard for me to push any further on this since it’s up to them. Thanks for the advice!

You make the judgement because you know your life best. At the end of the day whether you go or not it will be up to you. We're just here to give you some food for thought.

You can either be his martyr, or you can be happy. He’s the asshole in the scenario.

Nah, that is very sus and he seems to be ready to blow up the marriage over it. So now, are you satisfied with his response, If not what actions are you ready to take?

I’d wait until after your undergraduate degree’s complete. No earlier.

Nothing wrong with you. Exploring your options is pretty much your job at your age, so of course you think of these things.

It's hard to shake feeling responsible when if he does end up killing himself, I would know that he wouldn't have done it if I had stayed with him. I'm not sure how to move past that.