I am 56 and your mom is not an old woman. She needs to get out and make friends. Get a part time job, volunteer, join groups that have similar interests, take a class, join a gym, attend a church. find some outside activities that she enjoys.

Since she lives in such a rural area, it might be a good idea to move to where there are more opportunities to participate in social activities. She may even enjoy something like mmorpg once she was introduced to it. There are facebook groups that are for specific cities/areas or for specific interests that she could find local meet ups.

Don't sacrifice your life for your mom. She has options, she has to decide what the rest of her life will be. I encourage my 26 year old daughter to be independent and to chase her dreams. The time for her to make mistakes is now, while I am here to pick up the pieces if needed. I am her safety net if she needs it. She isn't my safety net.

Why is it disrespectful? Going on a mixed-gender trip isn’t inherently wrong. If he hasn’t done anything to cause OP to distrust him, then she’s getting herself worked up about something pretty innocent.

I don’t think it’s time for an ultimatum yet. I think you need to sit down for a conversation (when things are going well and explain your POV. If she doesn’t listen to you or continues making excuses for her best friend I’d highly recommend you have pre-marital counseling with a professional or even a relationship counsellor given that your relationship is established.

I know Filipinas well. You will be marrying the whole crew. Possibly supporting…LOL.

I get that then. It does suck when your partner tells you they’ll do something and don’t stick to it. I think just communicating that it’s hurting your feelings and that you feel like you’re putting in a bit more effort than he is. You’re missing him, and want to talk to him when you can, and it doesn’t feel great that he seemingly isn’t trying to help sooth that with just this little thing every day. Doing the whole “I’ll just text him less” thing is playing games and it’s passive aggressive, and that’s never a good way to treat your partner. Just tell him how it’s hurting you, and hopefully he’ll recognize that he needs to step it up a bit.

>Now I’m raging coz she just doesn’t stop. What should I do

I'm a little bit crazy so probably don't do what I would do but.... I would lean into it and play their game by your rules. My two cents:

"Oh, this is a kid they found on the street! Yeah, it's cray." "Oh, I'm just headed out to YADAYADA BAR, do you want to come? Great people most of the time, maybe you'll find hubby # 2!!" "OMG, im so sorry, I thought you told me this fact the other day, were you wrong? I don't want us to disagree so I want to make sure I'm remembering what you said properly" "oh, didn't you know? Living abroad saves you tooons on taxes! Plus you know, you know, gotta get that sunshine! It's good for the soul." "So how's your ex doing?" "It's so sweet of you to ask about my life! Can I come in for a coffee and chat?! I've got so much to tell you!"

Ya know, that kind of thing, defuse their hostility with... friendliness? Don't dismiss it i guess, treat it like an improv show where you have to say "yes and" to whatever comes at you. I've found people get bored of trying to mk you defensive or angry. But again. I don't put up with peoples bullshit very well so, do what you feel comfortable with.

"Sorry, no time to talk, have a good one."

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So her "best friend" made this account and she what forgave or brushed it off? How does she accept this behavior?

I mean their continued relationship says a lot about how she feels about you but you could if you want to try tell her.

"Best friend" has done abc for x time, I'm no longer comfortable with her in our lives and what she is trying to do to us, for us a couple to continue i need xyz from you.

Before discussing this is her, speak to a lawyer and get your ducks in a row regarding your child

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Yes. She should break up with you if you ask to see her phone and harass her.

If the nicest person you ever met was someone who treated you like shit and lied to you about cheating.... you need to find better people in your life.

But it wasn't a one-time thing.

You said every time you fight your go-to move is yelling, then packing your things, then leaving.

You can only bend a stick so much until it breaks. And you bend the hell out of your fiancé until he broke.

You now have to deal with these consequences. You have to let him heal. And you trying to bend him more will not fix this. You need to let him fix it.

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All your advice seems to be break up.

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Nope. Your mother sounds like a train wreck and a shitty parent. If your stepdad is just getting out of rehab, I doubt he’ll be a source of stability either. The poor hypothetical child deserves better than that.

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