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It came up and she inquired, and I have this thing where I insist on not lying to her or withholding things from her. So we ended up talking about it.

You could tell him that after what happened the night before you aren't interested in meeting up again.

Why the hell would you message him again? Did you not get enough satisfaction from helping him cheat before?

She genuinely feels the remorse. Yeah right, this and the other times.

Yeah, yall broke up. She don't want you no more. So move on

I agree, ghost or tell him he crossed your explicit boundaries and should feel bad about himself and then block.

Its over. This relationship according to your comments and history has been toxic trash the entire time. It's over and she isn't your girlfriend. Get over it, you sound like a stalker and creep.

I'm going to sound heartless, but what he does is on him, not you. It's not your problem. He has created a black hole for himself by not even trying to get better. You can't fix him or help him at this point.

Save yourself and get out of this relationship. Can you really spend another day in this hell? Can you imagine how free you will feel without his abuse? Please leave.

Also, there is a fine line between suicide and murder. Violence is violence and you are in danger.

The entire procedure is very very expensive.

Unless she is rich, she's delusional.

He is holding your life hostage. Dangling the possibility of getting married over your head and blaming you for it not happening. He is toying with you. He says your behavior is the reason he won't propose, and the cycle starts all over again. You are upset because you are wasting your life waiting around on him so it's time to put a stop to that. BUT you have to actually mean it. You can't tell him you're moving out and then back out of that decision when he pretends that he will propose.

Start making plans of where you'll go. Get that lined up, recruit your friends/family to come over and help you move and get out. No need to tell him your plans until the day of the move. Engage a lawyer to get a child custody agreement and move on.

What do you want advice about?

Girl ghost!! Boundaries were crossed! Don't put yourself in the position for them to be crossed again.

You need to get out of this abusive relationship. She is abusive and sadistic. Please get a lawyer and find out what you can do for yourself regarding your children. They are very much in danger as well.

Totally. It's been long enough since my mom died that I don't even always remembre the actual date, but the runup to the date finds me out of sorts, irritable, not even knowing why necessarily. it also happens around her birthday & her anniversary date with my dad. It's great that you're in therapy to learn coping skills! Losing a parent is awful, if you had a good relationship with them.

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That assumption is valid, but if that's true, her response is invalid. I play video games maybe three hours a week.. if I'm lucky.

We were together for years. We broke up in Auguest but I;ve been keeping in touch with her and her friends and volunteering where she does. She also told me that she wasnt gonna date anyone for now so I was trying to work on us but guess that was a lie

Nope, mom needs some therapy! Hell, she would be 70 before a kid graduates, not to mention, she sucked as a parent to you!

Stop it bro, Move on

Yes, she's always upset that the door is locked and if it is, Im expected to jump up and unlock it. She has a key.

do you feel in your gut that she is messaging another guy?

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Oh god, I am so sorry. You have been through hell and seems like your fiancee just wants to double down on your misery.

First, though I don't know your mother I do know that YOU are not the reason she committed suicide so wipe that thought out of your head.

You are going to feel some relief even if you are sad. This woman is a terrible person. Can you also get custody of your child? That child has been indirectly abused by her as well for the way she treats you. Can you file a court order for custody? Put your love into that child. She doesn't deserve you.

You shouldn't sacrifice your life and happiness for someone else. Right now, you are enabling him to wallow in his misery, if you weren't there for him, maybe he would be forced to make some changes, or maybe not. You can only control your actions; you can't control his. Leave him and find your own happiness. If you feel compelled to do so you can still check up on him to see how he is doing and encourage him to make some changes.

He is a grown man and is responsible for his own well being. You can't force him to get help or do anything else. He has to choose his own way forward. You suffering alongside him isn't helping him. You don't have the power to make him well, nor are you responsible for his depression. He has to choose to get help. You need to move on.