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Reply to Should I (19f) end things with my unemployed bf (24m) by ThrowRApleasehelpo

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xvszero t1_je2tgj9 wrote

Reply to 26F 25M Fiance keeps watching porn by ThrowRA_KristiAmbers

I feel like there are a few things probably true here.

  1. He's probably never going to stop looking at porn.
  2. It's not about you "not being enough" or whatever.
  3. It doesn't necessarily mean he will want "variety" in who he sleeps with.
  4. But that doesn't mean you have to like it. Kind of up to you to decide what you do about it.
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Reply to 26F 25M Fiance keeps watching porn by ThrowRA_KristiAmbers

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Reply to My (24m) parents won't let me stay over at my gf's place (23f), only allowing her to stay over in a separate room. by [deleted]

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Throwaway445092345 t1_jaf51cc wrote

Reply to comment by BeachPeachMcgee in I was right (29M). Girlfriend (22F) is dating the guy she told me not to worry about (23M). How do I fix this? by [deleted]

It just sucks man. I've been trying to make things right with her since August but she's been making things so hard. And I can't just forget about her, not after all weve been thru. We worked thru so much and I would never do what she did and just not care, but no matter what I did she just didn't care at all. She was the last home I knew and she doesn't care how much it hurts me to see her act all happy when I'm miserable and she knows it

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BraveAccident738 t1_jaf4yut wrote

Reply to I can't keep up with my partner financially and it's extremely stressful. Advice needed. (M28, F26) by Oatmealtuesdays

You guys need to talk to one another. I understand splitting costs, but he must see and know the differences in your incomes and I think it is not very nice to put you in a difficult position. Can I ask why you don’t like to accept his generosity for the ski trip? I live in NE and skiing is super expensive. If it is his idea, why don’t you accept his gift to go and pay for you.

And I would have a hard time with my partner eating surf and turf and I was having a salad and counting my pennies for example. When I was dating and in a relationship, we didn’t keep count, we took turns, he gifted, I gifted. Have you guys always split everything and whose idea is it?

Being in a committed relationship is great but you both need to learn to share your combined wealth in participating in life together. You don’t need to feel ostracized due to money. I think you should feel more comfortable with accepting from him as your partner to treat you to dinner and go skiing if it is his ideal. You need to think that going forward as you make more you can return the favor. Why do you always need to split the bill?

He shouldn’t be calling you cheap, you are frugal. It is good to be frugal and he may need to learn better saving plans and you can help him. A partnership is sharing sometimes our money, our time, or our skills. Maybe come to a mutual decision that if he wants you to participate in expensive trips, etc than he needs to fund them and you need to be accepting of this. It’s good to find a common ground on a issue such as finances. You could also look into making a shared fund that both of you can contribute to for activities and dates, based the sharing on your income.

You need to resolve this issue prior to moving in together as in relations to shared expenses or this could become a continued issue in your relationship.

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Ok-fifi-78 t1_jaf4yol wrote

Reply to My (24f) abruptly ends things with me (34m) after 3 years coming to 4. I'm dead inside. I thought we were happy. Does age gap really matter? by ThrowRA_ded

In these age gap relationship posts in reddit, the girl almost always have some issues at the start of relstionship, emotionally, financially so that the older guy can swoop in and sort of rescue her. After a few years, trouble in paradise, the girl opens her eyes that the older guy could be abusive or she has changed to a different person.

This is what you get for getting with them young, you may not be maturing or growing at the same level.

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