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AcanthaceaeGrouchy95 t1_je9we2v wrote

Reply to I (36M) rated my girlfriend (24F) a 6/10 at the start of us dating. by ThrowRA_womanpokedex

Why do people think that rating others on their faces or behind is fine and fun, she actually deserves to be with someone who actually considers her a 10 and if I could advice her rn I would have told her to leave you because I don't think she will ever be able to feel good about her own self and her body if she continues staying with you, she will always need others' validation now because her boyfriend straight away rated her a 6, no matter what you tell her now this thing is always going to stay at the back of her mind and Idk how a 36M is not even mature enough to know how such remarks can destroy someone's entire self esteem

Also I read your previous post , how were you 31 last month and 36 now???

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Castle_of_Aaaaaaargh t1_je9wcmv wrote

Reply to I(M21) ghosted my ex (F21) that cheated and lied to me with her ex(22), but I feel like I'm the one who broke her heart by ImAdou21Gta

Best advice is if someone cheated on you and you break up with them… stop following/stalking their social media for updates. She knows you’re watching. And either she hopes to get you back, or just hurt you so that it’s your fault and not hers for, well, ACTUALLY CHEATING.

If you think about it, this sounds like high school drama nonsense. I feel like anyone who posts targeted woe-is-me nonsense to social media is actually in the wrong, by default. Who else would stoop to such lame cries for attention?

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Reply to M23 I need advice. Apparently two women at my job like me. F22 F21 by [deleted]

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Reply to I(M21) ghosted my ex (F21) that cheated and lied to me with her ex(22), but I feel like I'm the one who broke her heart by ImAdou21Gta

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Ok-Astronaut-2837 t1_je9u6l4 wrote

Reply to I (36M) rated my girlfriend (24F) a 6/10 at the start of us dating. by ThrowRA_womanpokedex

Jesus. Why do men do this? Unless you tell her every day that she's beautiful, this is going to continue to be a problem for her as long as you're in her life. It's something she needs to work on and probably was before you wrecked her self-esteem. I'd say she needs to be with someone who considers her a 10/10, instead of someone who won't even consider her feelings.

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M0ti0nzz t1_je9s205 wrote

Reply to comment by Gosc101 in I (20F) broke my bfs (21M) trust and don’t know how to fix it by [deleted]

I know , it’s just hard as I’m so kind hearted about that sort of stuff which he know. It’s also so hard as I live in a town with no one I know and he was my first person here and my friends was his friends before he turned everyone against me . I guess hes controlling me leaving me with no one and stuck with him , even though he doesn’t act like he wants me at all, sometimes I think he’s angry at me because he’s hiding stuff

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[deleted] OP t1_je9qkcb wrote

Reply to comment by PastorBlinky in My [19F] boyfriend [24M] likes trans girls and I don’t know what to do by [deleted]

Wow, you said a lot of very power things. “Some people see life as something you should try and take as much as you can get away with”, that’s huge. It’s definitely been a theme I’ve noticed with him too. I love super hard, and sometimes it’s hard for me to recognize that things like this are genuine “dealbreakers” universally, and I’m not just being sensitive. I’m sure you can imagine I’ve experienced a good deal of gaslighting as well. Thank you for taking the time to help me out and sharing your mind.

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