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For sure keep it up man!

I know it hurts, its hard not to obsess. Hey, even even when at home try a new hobby or class. Plenty of online classes you can take. Helps keep your mind occupied

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THIS!! I wouldn‘t want a partner who isn‘t my number 1 hypeman. Or rates women based on numbers. My ex did that to shatter my confidence on purpose and I‘d advise people to RUN if they get in this situation. Like.. OP, who are you to rate people?

Edit: My ex would say „intelligence wise you‘re a 6/10“ (while I go to one of the hardest law schools and I appreciate my intelligence) and when I would get upset he‘d go down with the number just to hurt me.

Everything about this is horrifying. If you're telling the truth, then you should realize that your "relationship" situation is so awful, on so many levels, that it's very hard to believe it's real.

Please stop seeing this old man who rapes you*, insults you, treats you like garbage, and is trying to trap you with a pregnancy

*Even if you consent to start having sex with him, it becomes rape when he knows that you are unhappy and want to stop and he continues anyway.

You probably won't understand until you're older, because I didn't when I was 18, but this is not a good situation for you. For a whole lot of reasons. Show this post to an adult you trust, your parents or a teacher or a cool aunt or whoever. A man 20 years your senior having sex with you until you cry while you're still in high school is really really scary, I hope you can see that reading this post back.

This is sexual assault. If you say stop and he doesn't, it's assault. You need to stop seeing this person immediately.

A 37yo man has no business being with an 18 yo. He's with you because you are young and naive and can be persuaded that this is normal. A woman closer to his age would never take this abuse from someone. He's abusive. He says he wants a baby so that he can trap you and sell you on the idea that you'll be a family for ever.

I assume your parents don't know about this guy. If you trust them, tell them about this guy.

In any event, please refrain from dating anyone over 21 at this point. Better - no dating until you figure out how you got yourself in this situation and why your self esteem is not stronger.

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"you're a 6/10" is EXACTLY the kind of thing a 36 year old would say to beat down a 24 year old. Seriously, it sucks, but it fits.

You also hate all the romantic stuff she enjoys. just free the poor girl, you're enjoying this powertrip and dynamic too much, she's only going to end off worse for it.

Definitely, I started playing piano and practicing tennis again, it feels really good, but when I get back home, I start thinking about them again, they have haunted my mind, but that's life, I can't do anything else besides accepting the truth, feeling the real pain then move on with time. Thanks again I really appreciate your help <33

Why is this problematic age gap posts getting more frequent??

Why are all the 30 - 50 yo dudes going after teenagers?

WHAT IS GOING ON??

If he doesn't respect your boundaries the conversation stops there. That isn't the recipe for a healthy or happy long term relationship and even if you don't stay together if you reproduce you'll be forced to have a relationship forever whether you want one or not.

Edit: PS, having the self confidence to dump someone because they don't respect your boundaries comes with experiences. It's why having a child super young is often a bad idea, you don't know yourself, relationships and the like well enough to know if the person you want to have a baby with is someone you should do that with. And I'm sure there are 18 year olds here or there who have that maturity but most don't, and there is nothing wrong with not having it yet. If you couldn't get to the point of recognizing you should dump this guy on your own, you probably don't have it yourself, at least not yet.

He hasn’t had like the typical life of a 37 year old so I kinda get his perspective and he wants a kid before 40 and I want kids young so w that aspect I think we match but he definitely doesn’t respect my boundaries

Hun, the longevity of sex is not your biggest problem here.

Not a troll acc unfortunately & have all proof to back everything up but maybe I do need therapt

I would guess that she’s interested, but slow and steady wins the race. Maybe try to grab lunch with her one day or bring in a special treat to share. Friendship is the best possible foundation for a relationship

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Troll better. A 3YO acct and no comments in all that time and only this post? Methinks you delete things. Nothing about this seems real. If it is, you need therapy.

It’s over. Why the fuck would you ever consider saying this to her - or anyone? What did you hope to gain by telling her?

“She likes classical romantic stuff but I find it kind of cringe so I don’t do them”.

Are you serious, OP? But SHE finds it special; it’s not always about you. It doesn’t have to be a big gesture or all of the time. I think it’s sad that you don’t inherently want to plan something cute to make her smile. This seems like a big opportunity to “make it up to her.” But I think anything you say or do is futile and I question how much you actually like your gf.

I forgot that you’re 36, not a teenager. Grow up.

Why would you rate someone? You're 36 years old and still acting like a child.

He's super creepy and using you for sex.

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