The thing is I’ll bring up him using me for sex and he completely flips out and says I’m not and “if he’s using me for sex I am too” which def isn’t the case because I’ve asked him multiple times to hang out without sex but I feel like people saying it is kinda just proof I’m not crazy or delusional for feeling used

Your a 36 year old man - wtf are you rating women like you are still in high school??

Same. At 36 years old, it boggles my mind that he didn’t know better. 🤦‍♀️

Then find a 20 year old guy to do that with. Not someone the age of your father that’s using you for sex.

You should really grow up before that.

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This makes it so much worse that you stayed.

Not grown just did my fair share of dumb shit I just wanna settle down young and have a family

Your entire post is proof that isn't true. You clearly are not mature enough for a child.

Well to be fair he did lie about his age at first I thought he was 26 (he looks 26) so it wasn’t intentional

You’re 18. Please stop acting like you’re grown or something

I used to do weird crazy shit drunk when I was younger now Im over it

He has a lot of wisdom and he’s super caring and nurturing like w/ his family members and me too

L O L

He’s showing you who he is. Believe him. If he doesn’t respect your boundaries, why do you think he’d respect the children’s? He can’t be a good father and be disrespectful to their mother. It just doesn’t work. This is not a person I’d ever have kids with.

I can’t get over how dumb these posts are. Thank goodness me being stupid at 18 was going to frat parties and being hungover

He’s not respecting you now. Why do you think he’ll start respecting you just because you had his kids?

what evidence do you have of that? You've been dating for 6 months and most of it is just sex, you don't know this person at all.

If he wants you to mother his child, he should be respectful, and clearly he is not.

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This is no where close to normal.

You’re still in high school! Your parents are still trying to parent you and make sure you’re being smart.

And right now, you are not being smart. You are risking your future, your education, everything, on being with a man who is old enough to have fathered you.

I really dont doubt him being a good father idk how he would treat me but I hope if someone mothers their child theyd be respectful

He knows exactly what he is doing.

Do you think he’s going to respect your boundaries as a mother? What about the children’s boundaries? This is a recipe for disaster and dysfunction. It’s already started.

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