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This is not a substitute for respect. That’s not “super caring and nurturing”.

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He clearly doesn’t want to hang out with you without sex. You’re worth more than that to a person, show yourself that

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Okay good luck with raising a man child and an actual child. We look forward to the next post about how he does nothing and you’re basically a single parent

I'm the first person to come here and say that I don't condone snooping and that having a need to indicates that there's no trust in the relationship already, regardless of what you might find.

But here's the deal; it's done. You snooped. Turns out you were right not to trust him. But does you being wrong change the reality of the situation? Is he any less of a scumbag because you went through his phone? Of course not.

"It's over. You're a piece of shit who can't be trusted." You don't need to overthink the conversation. You don't need to approach this sensitively. You should know that the end game here is that you're ending the relationship. What do you want to work? A relationship where you're constantly disrespected? Respect yourself enough to walk away. Good luck.

I mean he’s using you. He’s not going to admit it. But no dude older than me wants anything to do with a teenager. At least no dude that isn’t a walking red flag

He’s using you for sex and company, there’s no way around it. Up to you if you want to be in that kind of relationship.

2 months?

Just move on.

You are being groomed and he is a creep. Leave asap. No normal 37 yo would be like: „yup I wanna date a child!“ (yes you are an adult legally but when I was 18 I was definitely not an adult)

I read as far as two months.

You should not even be discussing career stuff at that stage. Put on the brakes.

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But it doesn’t make sense how we have such long conversations on the phone like hours and we get along so well even irl it’s just that it feels like he’s using me which upsets me & he had life experiences which kinda made him not mature as much so that’s something I can accept and be understanding of

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Besides the fact that she's being completely illogical, you're two months in. She isn't in a position to have any input on your career choices.

But let's just keep it simple. You two are in an unhealthy relationship after only two months. You should be firmly in the honeymoon period right now. Instead, all you do is fight. You think this is just going to magically get better? It's time to walk away. Good luck.

A 37 year old man will never be interested in you beyond sex. You’re a teenager. And if they are interested, it means they never grew up and have the mentality of a teenager in an old man’s body which is even worse. This is not a man who you want to settle down with. Just leave him.

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Oh honey. Please want more for yourself than a way too old for you guy who lied to you and who uses you as a sex doll. Do not throw your life away for this loser. There’s a reason he can’t get women his own age. You should value and respect yourself more. If you don’t, I promise you that you will one day look back to this point in time and be full of regret for making the wrong choice.

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