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In the absence of any information from her as to what is going on, you really only have two choices - force the issue or try your best to ignore it.

As someone else here said, just asking a simple question "do you still love me?" is a good one to go with, however I'd be more inclined to get straight to the point and ask the obvious one "do you still want to be married to me or do you just want me to go?"

Do not accept her walking away without responding as an answer and even go to the extent of saying to her if she does, that this is all the answer you need and you'll start speaking to lawyers tomorrow as you can no longer live like this.

As things stand, you can't keep living like this and she is not going to offer any solutions, or even hint at what is wrong, then your only recourse is to default to looking out for yourself and take action to keep you happy.

Whether that happiness is found with her in your life or her out of it is something that you may have to seriously address.

Wish I had the time to do the sort of research u/ebbie45 does.

You need a serious talk mate. Its not easy but you need to firmly but fairly talk about this. Tell her exactly what you have said here. "Hey (name) I need a serious chat with you and I would appreciate you attention. I feel you have been really off with me and done some cold things that have hurt me (examples) they hurt me as I love you and it upsets me you doing these things. You have been really quiet with me and I feel theres very little effort coming from your end. If there is something I can do I am listening now and need you to open up to me. Because this is really effecting me. We never have intemacy anymore and its very important to me. and is effecting me greatly all these things accumilating. Good luck, if she gives you cold hearted awnsers etc then you can potentialy end things there or say "look im trying my hardest and you arent I cannot carry on with you like this, so what is your choice."

>I don’t want him to grow up without both parents being present

Divorce doesn't mean he loses a parent and even if it did he'd grow up a lot happier with one parent who loved him rather than in a home where one of his parents is actively disgusted by the other.

It's important to do what's good for your son but doing it at the detriment of yourself will hurt him in the long run.

Thank you - I just wanted someone's opinion or a helping hand be it a stranger on the internet. Thank you.

I'm a college student with student loans, I'll need to settle for Reddit as an outlet unfortunately.

>My ex continued to reach out to me, offering to be my friend, offering to be there.

False, he sounds very abusive and perhaps wants you to hurt yourself. He gets off on hurting you for some reason. He's very manipulative and a horrible person. You need to block him on everything for your own mental health.

You may have lost some people you thought were your friends, but they are not. They would have wanted to hear you out if that were so, and they didn't give you a chance.

It's time for a fresh slate, to find new friends who value your emotional well-being, then when you're ready, find a partner that isn't emotionally abusive.

Son goes to daycare as we both work. She enjoys cooking so she will cook and I clean up after. Every night we clean up the house before bed, it’s never really messy

Just ask her..."Do you still love me?" And if she doesn't answer or avoids the question.. You know the answer.

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She’s always on her phone texting and calling people but she uses her phone a lot for work taking to clients. So I’m not sure if it’s for work or pleasure. She engages with our son whenever she can. She’s a good mom

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This one is above Reddit’s pay grade, are you in therapy?

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Is she depressed? Who does she talk to, friends, parents, coworkers? Does she engage with your son?

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Thank you all for this great feedback! You've given me the courage I need to address this as a boundary issue between Jon and Ella. Much appreciated <3

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That's what I thought too, thanks for the validation

Yeah you’re overthinking it. It’s awkward cause you think its awkward. If you want something with this guy YOU need to reach out to him. He already shot his shot and got denied

Just reach out to him and ask him how’s he’s doing or if he wants to grab coffee.