If you want it to work find another guy. It’s asking for trouble to bring someone into it that has already been part of issues in the past. Think about it if the roles were reversed.

I second this, if a change after the birth, don't give up on her just yet.

She maybe struggling adjusting to motherhood and doing most of it alone, I'm not saying your a bad parent at all. Just some mother's find it really overwhelming and a lot of psychological/ physical things are happening.

Look into her mental health first, she might be burnt out and just can't handle anything more than wake, child, food, sleep?!?!

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Your wife is being unfair to your emotions and the relationship is unequal, no, I change my mind, it is bad.

Sexual intimacy is a bit of a trap. Often I have seen that women need emotional intimacy before sexual intimacy and men need it the other way around. One way or another you are getting neither from her, so just ignore that you aren't getting laid because worrying about that will not help.

I do believe that confrontation is in order but be smart about it. Get a referral to a psychologist who is trained in Family Therapy. Organise a baby sitter. Book the appointment and invite your partner but let her know that you will be attending one way or the other.

Look the rest will come about as it is destined to do but make sure that you have done your best for what you want (it sounds like you want a better relationship with her rather than to break up).

If you do your best and it still fails then you will still need therapy so that you can continue to work on a shared parenting, and what kind of parent you are going to be.

Thank you - I needed to hear that.
I've been slowly mustering the courage to block my old friends. I will do the same to him because you're so right. As a human being - I deserve so much better. I appreciate you and your comment more than I can possibly explain.

He is blatantly telling you that he believes his time is more valuable than yours. He doesn’t see you as an equal. He doesn’t want a partner, he wants a maid.

Thinking about marriage one year into a relationship is also pretty quick. I think this goes to show that you really don’t know a person in that amount of time. If for whatever reason you still want to marry him, live together first and see if that’s how you want the rest of your life to be.

Well, he's told you how he's going to treat you, so if you stay with him, you know that you are going to be his maid. Is that what you want?

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Baby girl.. BLOCK HIM. Have you lost your ever loving mind? BPD or not MOVE ON. MOVE ON. I cannot stress this enough.. block him on ALL social media platforms, block his gmail, block your old friends, block ANYBODY you know that still talks to him. PERIOD. No if’s and’s or buts about it.

You need to tell your therapist if you have one, you need to tell your parents you need help, and you need to start taking your medication properly if you aren’t already. From somebody with BPD to.. YOUR NOT branded, your NOT an object, he CANNOT use you and you are worth MORE than that. MORE than him. Stop degrading yourself, stop wasting your time on him and for the love of god STOP giving him SEXUAL FAVORS.

He's doing what a lot of 22 year olds do, you aren't interested in that lifestyle and both positions are fine. He's asked you to go out but you didn't enjoy it and again that's fine. But there's an incompatibility between you two that isn't going to be worked out because you view your lifestyles so differently at this point in your life. Hope you things work out for you both in the future

Honestly it’s such a disgusting misogynist thing I would 1000% break up with him. But I assume you want advice other than just breaking up.

Tell him you’ll never marry him or move in with him if that’s his intention.

And you 1000% need to live with him before you marry him to see what living with him is like. Don’t assume he will behave ANY differently once you’re married. You marry exactly the person you marry, don’t expect them to change.

Pick a different boy for your mmf threesome. If its just sex the who shouldn't matter as much

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Something is very wrong with your wife. I wonder if she developed depression or PPD after the birth of your son and, without treatment, it hasn't gone away. She doesn't want you to touch you and finds you disgusting for winking at her and telling her she looked good. She doesn't want sex. None of this is normal behavior. She needs to get therapy to find out what's wrong with her.

You really can't go on in this marriage like this. You are basically roommates and that's not good. You are going to have to make it clear that she gets help because she isn't acting like a loving and caring wife or the marriage will be over. Sadly, that seems to be where you are right now.

Who cleans his floors and does his laundry now? His mom?

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I would feel a little upset tbh if this was my husband. They are coworkers and only need to talk about work related conversations. I understand a couple of “how are you?”, but your husband now needs to set boundaries.

Examples he could do it subtly is mentioning you with every personal comment. “I wish you could show me how to swing a bat” respond with “yeah, my wife and I like to go batting every Sunday” or even “yes, my father in-law really got me into baseball”. He should also not ask questions back. If it’s not about work, I don’t think he should really be talking to her on a personal level. At the end of the day, they are coworkers not friends and should really only talk about work things.

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