It sounds to me like he has moved on with his life without you and just hasn't told you yet. Its understandable to be busy when you've just moved to a new place, but you shouldn't be so busy that your girlfriend now just has to expect to be disappointed by you.

I think mentally it will be much better for you to end the relationship now before you let it continue like this for the indefinite future. Because let's be honest.

You've talked about it. You've had conversations. He KNOWS how you feel. He KNOWS what you're asking for to make you feel better. He just doesn't seem to really care to put the effort in without constant prodding. You shouldn't have to force your boyfriend to care about you.

A lot of people here saying he shouldn’t talk to her about anything besides work, but that’s not practical. Keeping work relationships held back to that degree will be detrimental to his career.

It seems he’s subtly telling her he isn’t interested. If he keeps that up, she’ll lose interest soon enough.

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Please every other reddit cheating story is a man in his mid/late thirties snd a 20 something girl. You should be concerned. I would stress he needs to stop it now - it has crossed lines - He needs to be blunt and say - I am happily married and love my wife . We need to only message about work. They don’t need to be buddies at work - Work is for work and polite conversation - not hanging out snd messaging about other things dll day. He needs to go back to being strictly professional and she can have friendship with people her own age outside of work who are not your husband.

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He needs to shut this down. He needs to straight up tell her the messages are crossing lines and he is happily married and they need to only talk about work.

Mmmmkay.

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Why do you want to date someone who does this? She obviously doesn't respect you. Even if you were having issues in the bedroom it's wildly inappropriate for her to be shit talking you like that.

I'd also have to question why to her ex? Why does she need him to know she's so sexually unsatisfied? She's 30. There's no way she doesn't know this is fucked up. She's definitely laying the groundwork for him to swoop in like a knight in a shining codpiece.

I'd leave her. You're not 16 anymore. Adults don't act like this if they are actually invested in their relationship. There are a tonnes of women out there who would be a better partner.

Umm, take the hint, move on.

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It doesn't get better.

And at least you found out before marriage.

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Take a hint

Why are you fighting for someone who interested in you at all anymore? Leave before this beats you down and be the best dad for your son.

You have a high conflict partner with a cruelty streak. Is this how you want to spend your life?

Its over bud. You dont get that trust back. End it and start the process of moving on.

Trauma or upbringing aren't excuses for cheating. And make no mistake, what shes doing is cheating. Its irrelevant whether or not she actually hooked up with these guys.

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This is a reference how she should be YOUR ex for the awful way she is treating you.

You can end it now or wait a couple weeks/months until she does it a third time. It’s up to you.

He should set her straight! “Im starting to get uncomfortable with our conversations now. I am in a loving and healthy marriage. Please refrain from speaking to me unless it’s about work matters.”

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