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Yeah I didn’t do it out of spite or revenge or anything. I guess it’s like I’ve been so frustrated with the situation plus sexually frustrated tbh so I kind of just gave up and surrendered for a bit

Your child is better off being from a broken home than being in a broken home.

You can't make it better by yourself. You cannot make her happy if she refuses to be happy.

Do what you have to do. Get therapy for yourself even if she won't go. Contact a lawyer. Document everything.

Good luck.

It’s honestly super complicated but it’s a combo of timing, distance, and just our lives not lining up. I know it’s weird and it sucks but I just have a gut feeling that he’s supposed to be in my life right now and I can’t just cut him off. We’ve talked about it and set boundaries and just hang out as friends these days but the feelings won’t go away. And he hadn’t kissed me for like 6 months until like 2 weeks ago when we were hanging

Time to nope right out of this relationship. He wants a bang maid, not a partner.

You can do better.

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I had to double check your ages because this sounds like high school nonsense. Why are you waiting for him to decide your life? My god woman, get some self respect!

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This is who he is.

You are wishing for him to be a different person. This is who he is. All the evidence and his actions are saying it loud and clear.

You either accept it or leave. You can’t change him. No one is coming to save you, save yourself and choose better for yourself. Make a plan. Reach out to friends and family for emotional support

There are couples who decide to remain in an essentially companionless marriage for a variety of reasons, children being just one of them. I can't imagine it myself. Those would be my final words to her. Perhaps a writer who stayed can advise you about that option.

First off you need to evaluate all medical reasons why she acts like this such as PPD. Depression would explain a lot.

After this is ruled out you can try couples counseling and sex counseling.

Because of you mentioning her being on her phone alot I also have to mention cheating as a possibility. If she shuts down the two first suggestions cheating starts becoming a more likely option. I would start snooping if it reaches this point.

Make sure that she understands that your relationship is on the line if she doesn't agree to the first two suggestions.

You’re only 19. Break up.

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I think this is probably the best approach. I would be tempted personally to mention divorce but I think this person is onto something. This is the first course of action. Of course if she's not engaging then I think you will need to bring up the topic of separation/divorce and if she still wants to be in this relationship.

Because you can't fix this alone. And living like this is a poor example for your child. Seeing his mom avoid interacting with dad and repelling at even the slightest touch is a horrible example to be setting.

Ya my bad for say she mean - I meant you mean.

As in, hopefully you've broken up with her now and she's now your ex.

My husband thought the same. His mom always did everything and he only had to take out the trash. I told him I absolutely will not do all the work. I was in school full time but also working too. I hate when men think it is the women’s “job” to do all the household duties and her also expect her to contribute financially. Because by there logic it is the man’s job to bring him the money so wtf would I be expected to do both.

I put my foot down and my husband is much better about the division of labor. Plus our kids are older so they chip in as well. This is something the needs to be addressed before marriage IMO

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Yikes. That's terrible. You need to break it off