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FullFrontal687 t1_jed4a3d wrote

Reply to Is my marriage over ? 31M/29F by [deleted]

"We’ve worked our asses off to earn a beautiful forever home" - sunk cost fallacy

"She walked away without saying a word." - post-partum depression

"We’ve had sex about 5 times within these 2 years and honestly, I basically had to beg for it." - you have lost pride in yourself and somehow accepted this as the new normal; its not

" I’ve suggested marriage counseling but she said absolutely not" - not acceptable unless she is suffering from severe depression

I would recommend getting as many family members together as possible, explain the situation to you, and then stage an intervention. If she still refuses counseling and an evaluation, you walk, and take everything with you that is due to you. I would also fight for as much custody as possible because I don't think someone like this is safe around children in the long term.

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SunShineShady t1_jed45re wrote

Reply to Is my marriage over ? 31M/29F by [deleted]

Your marriage sounds over, from her side. She doesn’t act like she wants to be with you at all. If she won’t go to counseling and won’t talk to you, you should speak to a lawyer.

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Reply to My (22 FTM) girlfriend (56F) is trying to force me to get bottom surgery. by jda0201

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AllSoulsNight t1_jed2dtx wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in Is my marriage over ? 31M/29F by [deleted]

I was wondering this too. Is she carrying some major resentment? Is she fed up with doing everything? The cooking, cleaning, laundry, keeping the in-laws happy, evening and morning child wrangling, etc? Do you only pay attention to her when you want something? Are you overly occupied with hobbies or video games? I think there needs to be a major sit down and get this all sorted out.

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bossoline t1_jed1u62 wrote

Reply to I (M19) friend (F19) recenlty found out she has a bf. Problem is I immediately thought "ah that sucks". by Substantial_Diet_485

> Just I dont know why this was my immediate thought.
>
>Its weird and can anyone help me fix this weird behavior?

It's not a behavior. It's a thought. It doesn't become a behavior until you act it out or express it, which opens it up to interpretation, judgment, and consequences. You didn't, so it's all good.

Not all thoughts mean something.

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