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Ebbie45 t1_jedceea wrote

Well I left open the possibility that maybe it's an open relationship, though that seems kind of doubtful. Him specifically requesting a "discreet" FWB seems off if that's the case. Sure, she could be cheating, who knows. But she also requested a divorce a year ago after he suggested she sleep with a woman.

So idk. There seems to be so much missing from this post that could provide really helpful context.

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CrazyCat-DogLady t1_jedc0yk wrote

You good. I'm a woman and have experienced similar feelings of disappointment at finding out someone I vibe with is taken. What makes the difference is how you respond to those feelings. As long as you can continue to respect her and her boundaries, you're fine. If you need to break off the friendship, that's fine too.

The reason you're feeling guilty over your immediate response is because of all these horror stories we see (especially on Reddit) of men going off the rails when they fall "victim" to the "friend zone". Your feelings are perfectly normal.

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Ebbie45 t1_jedbsjb wrote

It might not be a PPD issue. OP asked her to have sex with a woman a year ago and she requested a divorce afterwards. He also has repeatedly posted in r4r subs describing his dick size and asking for a "discreet" female "fuckbuddy."

It sounds like there's a lot of contextual info conveniently left out of this post that really skews what is written here.

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Ebbie45 t1_jedbmhu wrote

> If she’s not in a massive bout of PPD then she’s either cheated or is cheating

OP has repeatedly posted in an r4r sub describing his dick size and requesting a female "fuck buddy." Just to give some more context.

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Ebbie45 t1_jedba3k wrote

Reply to comment by ReenMo in Is my marriage over ? 31M/29F by [deleted]

OP has repeatedly posted in New Jersey r4r subs describing the size of his dick and requesting a female "fuck buddy" - specifically a "discreet" one.

Sounds like he's the one who's interested in someone else.

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