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cynicgal t1_jedmg85 wrote

Reply to Am I [24M] overthinking a messenger response I got from [24F]? by [deleted]

I'm going to be frank because there are a lot of scams and imposters everywhere.

Most likely, it's not that she didn't know how to use the phone, she just didn't want you to start calling her. So, gave you a number to text her instead.

Have you ever considered the fact that she might be a he, and not a she?

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ThrowRAselfdestruct OP t1_jedmg2r wrote

Reply to comment by Here_To_Read_ in I, 23M ended a perfectly good relationship with my gf who's 22F for what feels like a mental problem and fits a pattern i desperately want to break out of.... by ThrowRAselfdestruct

its actuallt literal although im unsure what its called or if its even a common thing for people. and yeah manic episodes have lead to some of the worst mistakes of my life, getting kicked out of high school getting criminally charged and put on probation, unfiltered rudeness leading to offending people loss of long time friendships, having embellished stories about myself to somehow seek sympathy from others while really only making myself look worse, and coming across crazily and making people around me uncomfortable on several occasions. its just too hard to stay consistently good. but i have to believe that, as long as i have my own volition, i have 100% control of my actions so, if i choose the right courses of action i can get out of this hole im in, right? but ive been trying and failing for far too long

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Here_To_Read_ t1_jedlxf2 wrote

Reply to comment by ThrowRAselfdestruct in I, 23M ended a perfectly good relationship with my gf who's 22F for what feels like a mental problem and fits a pattern i desperately want to break out of.... by ThrowRAselfdestruct

That headache you're talking about... is it metaphorical?

Therapists are "the best" on paper. You habe to chose who works with you and what way works for you. Not every therapist has the same approach, not every therapist has the same energy with you. Nothing works after 4 sessions, that therapist can't be "the best" if she gives up on patients that quickly. You were a piece of work for her, she wasn't patient enough to really work with you. Heck my therapy lasted almost 3 years, some people go to weekly or biweekly sessions for 10, 20 years. You go until you see improvement and then some. But you can't be walking around with bipolar and not being medically overlooked somehow. You're on a path of self destruction.

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ThrowRAselfdestruct OP t1_jedl8xt wrote

Reply to comment by Here_To_Read_ in I, 23M ended a perfectly good relationship with my gf who's 22F for what feels like a mental problem and fits a pattern i desperately want to break out of.... by ThrowRAselfdestruct

i went to a therapist once back when i was a junior in high school, she was "supposedly" one of the best but after 4 sessions she cut me off, refunded my parents and said she felt guilty taking they're money as it wasn't working at all and a complete waste of time. i was emotionally dulled, in that state of depression where life felt synthetic, nothing brought me any sort of happiness or pleasure, had no energy at all and i felt like i was merely existing in a world where everyone else was doing (if that makes sense). now its worse because its 100% all bottled up, that terrible frontal headache you get where you're about to cry i have that every minute of every day but nobody can tell.

Edit: i also have been prescribed antidepressants several times but i fear becoming dependent on pills to live life. theres got to be a way through right?

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Here_To_Read_ t1_jedkl91 wrote

Reply to I, 23M ended a perfectly good relationship with my gf who's 22F for what feels like a mental problem and fits a pattern i desperately want to break out of.... by ThrowRAselfdestruct

This is beyond reddit. You need a therapist. Your problems (in this capacity, especially involving mental illness and abuse) cannot and should not be solved by strangers on the internet, but by trained medical professionals.

Edit: one word

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