alright thanks for the advice bro

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Someone found his post history where he's been trying to cheat on her for several years. Suggested she sleep with another woman, etc.

Yeah, OPs wife isn't offering a solution, I wonder why.

OP your history suggests you might actually be acting disgusting. Does your wife know that you've been fishing for pussy the whole time you've been married or.....???? Release that woman. Please.

Been there. It sucks. I’ve done it though - been the friend - but it wasn’t the same as before, especially when she started dating an idiot. Just be you, have a coffee and a chat but try to close up that open heart wound. Good luck.

He also posted something about his girlfriend two years ago... This is a troll

I honestly don't know, because you lack persistence. You try things once and then meh, didn't work. Which is fine, I get it, I've been there way too many times.

Thing is, you're 23, you said your depressions started at about 7 years old. That's 16 years. After all this time, and let me be frank here, your brain is fucked up beyond holistic approach. Holistic as in meditation, sport, nutrition, thinking happy thoughts.

Thing about depression is, what starts as a mental symptome can become a physical symptome. Depression literally fries synapses and transmitters in your brain that transmit serotonin and dopamine and they cannot be restored without medication, I'm sorry to break it to you.

Antidepressants rebuild these connections in your brain. Yes there are antidepressants that will make you foggy, make you lose your sex drive, make you gain weight etc. But there are also alot that don't. Alot that actually help you in combination with therapy. It's the only advice I can give you, I'm sorry. I know it's hard. I've been there. I also refused antidepressants for the very longest time and thought I just had to get myself together, but that just didn't work. But in the end, what works for one doesn't have to for someone else. But you need to seek any form of medical help. And it takes time to even find the right GP nowadays, no matter where you're from. I know how fucked up the American medial system is. I'm German, ours is not better, you have to wait for up to a year to see a specialist or find a therapy spot, it's just free. The British health system is a joke too. I know it's hard, I know it's alot. But wanting to better yourself and get better is already the first step. You can't do this all by yourself.

Did you just scroll past the comment above this where someone points out multiple posts of OP publicly trying to cheat on his wife and that he tried to push her into having sex with a woman leading to her asking for a divorce.

He is disgusting.

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Maybe she hates you because you're a desperate and pathetic excuse for a man looking to find random sex behind your family's back on reddit? That's probably why.

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Mate with your comment history it's no wonder she acts this way. I wouldn't want a bar of you either.

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It's been 2 years lol She said he was disgusting. OP needs to have self respect and just leave

Grow up. She might pay attention but it won’t be the attention you’re looking for. She problem saw your post looking for pussy and is trying to calm down before she tells you to eff off

Eh, I guess if that's the case I will find out the hard way. I don't really feel threatened by her like that at all. If she try to lie to me about something serious its just going to end with her crying lol. (inevitably after a long unnecessary argument)

//This is a rat's tail with no end unless you find help.

i dont know where to start. i tried to pick up religion (i was baptized but we never practiced) and it didn't really change anything just couldnt commit to or believe in it. i did therapy once, didnt work. i tried to work out, as thats what people are always saying, and i became quickly bored of it and disinterested (also turned off by the overall gym environment, seemed like a mosh pit of narcacissts obsessed with their appearances and edgy buff guys on steroids and pre workouts.) i tried guided meditation youtube videos and found no peace from it, i tried to keep a notebook to write feelings of anxiety in to calm nerves and it hasnt been a net positive, and of course i tried relationships hoping there was some girl out there willing to accept me for the depressed degenerate i am and try to work with me to improve my personality and life; and i did find several of them but none worked out! last thing i want to do is go on antidepressants and endure the sideffects of those, become dependent on them for day to day life and become sterilized by them and lose creativity and free thoughts in day to day life, so i am comig before you humbled and humiliated to say to you, please tell me how i can help myself.

Yeah, it does sound like it's gearing towards the end... your wife might be severely depressed and if she doesn't want to address it, there's not much you can do.

>I don’t want him to grow up without both parents being present

It's much worse seeing parents hate each other, and thinking his whole life that that's what love is supposed to be, than seeing the two of you happy with someone else.

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Exactly. In this case his son would benefit from not having OP in his life, so that he doesn't have to see his dad posting on r4r subreddit describing himself as "extremely horny, well hung, jacked white male" looking for a "discreet FWB" while his wife is pregnant.

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Yeah this sounds like she is cheating. Gather your evidence.

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