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True, the issue is she can't understand your point of view.

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It isn't really a session, I'm talking about when we make out for like 10-20 seconds. I don't really have an explanation I suppose, it just takes me a bit longer to switch from "cute make out" mode to "let's get it on" mode. I just wish there could be some times where we'll make out on the sofa and can just leave it at that until we pick it back up later. For me I like when foreplay happens with intimacy throughout the day, but if he could, he would easily have sex every single time we make out

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You have left her hanging and insecure about future. How she acted at that time is no indication, how she will act in relationship with you. Appreciate that you have her.

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Move on from R, by cutting contact. Think about obvious giveaways she was manipulating you, and terrible in general.

Failure is for most people natural part of process of seeking their forever partner. Accept reality for what is, take some time as single to get over it, and start dating again.

S has as, you noticed, already moved on from you. Her relationship might fail at some point, but don't think it will necessarily mean she will want to immediately get with, in fact she might not want you anymore in general. Just don't take her affection for granted.

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Yeah for sure sounds like OP is the rebound. Embrace it and enjoy it. Don’t fall in love.

Well, I agree with you in part. She could've kept it a secret. But I trust her. This is not about trust. But is it ok to just give out the number like that? She could've given him an email and support him like that.

By start and stop, I mean if we start making out it always leads to sex because it turns him on a lot (it does for me too, but I need a bit more warm-up than he does) so often he's been frustrated because I'll be making out with him (which I LOVE but it's a turn off when there's an expectation for more), but then I might say no when he asks if I feel like having sex.

I completely get that lack of sex is frustrating - but, for two people who don't live together, is once a day/every two days really a "lack of sex"? I feel like we'd have MORE sex if this wasn't an issue

Sorry mate -- you're just at the wrong part of the story. It's not fair to ask S to wait for you, and it's good that R is out of the picture, and so for now you are a party of one.

Advice: you don't have to rush into person #3, but don't wait for S, either. Just take life as it comes. If you meet someone new, let it happen; if S & D run their course, you'll be there.

Time alone can be centering, gives you a chance to reflect on the past and work on yourself.

You need to move on. Pretending to be her friend will only hurt both of you in the long run.

You’re right about my choices resulting in it though, she said it herself that she was so unsure what I wanted to do and what I was thinking

He used his own money. For me tattoo is not like getting a haircut but I can hear your point that Im probably over reacting.

Well I’ll say that she did not have to share that information with you. If she had bad intentions, you would not be knowing about the interaction.

He might be. Doesn't make it right.

Somewhat ironically, you are doing the best possible thing to make her actually want a relationship with her … ignoring her and living your best life. I would guess that you used to text her and give her attention and now she misses that … she doesn’t want you as a friend, she wants the validation of having you pine after her so she can feel good about herself. My advice would be to let her pursue you now … if she wants to be friends with you she can do the work and prove to you that’s it’s worth your time and energy.

I think it's more about the fact that she just met this guy. She has male friends, and I don't have problems with her exchanging her number with a co-worker or people she knows. But a guy comes to you, chats to you, tells you that he's new there and you tell him you going to help meeting people and giving out your number like this? You don't know him, you don't know his intentions, and as a man kinda hurts that my girlfriend wouldn't shut this down before it even becomes something.

How can you start and stop? Just the tip feels so good. But seriously, you guys sound like you’ll work through this. Frustration of lack of sex from a male is pretty normal. He needs to sort that out, but it’s not a bad thing. He wants you.

Whoa! Did not know that. That pretty much changes everything.

You may be right, this is my first experience with this type of thing and I am trying my best. I agree I am very lucky, do you have any advice on how I can forget and move from this? I almost wish she never told me.

Even if she did nothing wrong it still upsets me and how do I move past it ?

Thank you for responding