Your friends are awful. Not everyone feels the need to share their every thought, meal and bowel movement with the world.

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Thank you, yes I will give this a chance and work on reprogramming my idea of what a healthy relationship is with my therapist

Look out for yourself and for your friend. That guy is scum.

Tell your friend that you suspect your boyfriend is using her for s3x. You both need to get tested for STIs and both need to block him. A 45 year old hanging out with 27-28 year olds...yeah, that's going to be a good thing. SMH.

You’ve already accepted his past cheating instead of breaking up. This is who he is. If you don’t like it then dump him. You can’t change him. All he can do is improve his lying to hide things from you. Develop some self worth and quit adding more years to a worthless relationship that should have been over.

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These comments are naive

If this guy didn't know anybody why is he approaching random girls on the bus rather than people in his class? The answer is because he's trying to do something with your gf

Now you've got to deal with the fact that you're dating a 30 year old who doesn't understand that strangers trying to get her number aren't looking to be friends, this sort of short sightedness will lead to some very inappropriate moments

My spouse doesn’t use social media either. It’s just a choice some people make. Between Twitter falling apart (& being awful beforehand anyway) reddit being full of fake posts & toxic BS, Facebook really only existing for memes/cat pictures/sharing misinformation, insta being overrun with toxic positivity/influencer wannabes, Snapchat being mostly used to cheat on people… yeah I can see why more people are choosing to opt out lol

You’re not a disappointment; but she is. She sounds like a lousy GF.

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At first him and I were just friends, but then feelings developed. As for her, its just a fwb typa thing.. but I know for a fact that she lowkey likes him.

First, I can't go so far as to say this is a healthy relationship. Is it better than your past of dysfunctional relationships? Sure. But you're sort of ignoring the fact that this relationship is dysfunctional.

You've been together for six months and are already engaged. Why? Even if we don't sit here and make an argument that this is entirely rushed, look at the entire premise of this post; you don't feel like you're in love with your partner. If that's the case, why would you agree to enter into a legal relationship with him?

You list out some very important attributes as it relates to compatibility. That's great. But you can't sit here and say that you have no doubt you'd have a happy and secure future together when you're again, literally here questioning whether you're in love. That's not someone who's secure in their relationship.

I'm happy that you're at least holding off on wedding planning until you figure this out. To address the situation around the "spark," what I'm struggling with here is how you define it. To me (I'm a guy and I'm happily married for context), the "spark" is working together as a team to remind yourselves why you fell in love in the first place. You don't need to be doing new and exciting things 24/7, but it can't never be happening either.

You see the spark as an obsession. Obsession is unhealthy. You should never need someone; you should want someone. But there's a difference between just not being obsessed with someone compared to feeling generally apathetic about the person. It feels like the latter for you, and if that's the case, why would you be in a relationship with them, let alone be considering marriage?

I forgot to mention that we're in a LDR

Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. I am painfully aware that I'm not ready for marriage yet. I'm not going to rush anything and I know that my man won't rush me either. We do need to spend more time together - and I do need to know what a healthy relationship feels like. Like you said. Thank you.

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This is going to blow up either way.

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Nope I am very much in deep shit

You’ve only been together 6 months. You should be delaying wedding planning for about a year and a half. You don’t even know each other.

No sparks isn’t “normal,” nor is the lack of desire to rip each other’s clothes off. That doesn’t mean that either of those things are absolutely necessary to a happy relationship.

You need to be together for a lot longer to figure out if what you have is sustainable.

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You don't have a friend you can stay with?

He’s a total liar and he’s definitely cheating or considering it at the very list. He’s already changed his story a bunch of times AND has a history of cheating.

You deserve better! Show him that you respect yourself and dump his sorry ass

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My mother is a narcissistic psychopath :(

How often did you eat fish together?

Why did you think it was a wise choice?

Do you know her?

What do you plan to do to improve?