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Troll

I just want to point out that age doesn’t always help with working through toxicity and there are plenty of guys closer to you in age that don’t have a toxic past to work through

We’re just seeing each other but he tells me that he’s blocked so many girls that tried approaching him because he’s with me! Unfortunately I can’t show her a picture of him because she’s already shown me a picture of him and told me his name and age.. she’s been more open about it than me. And I stupidly acted stupid.. because I was SO SHOCKED! I didn’t know what to say or do… I was thinking of sending her a message saying hey blah blah blah but then when she confronts him he’ll ask how this person got HER number knowing they’ve only hung out in her apartment and no one knows about their situationship. It’s so messy… lord

So a year ago, per your post history, you were 25 and dating a 25 YO and worrying about Caitlyn Jenner and asking people if they’d rather be a Reddit mod or have sex with a woman .

So I call troll bullshit.

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Do you work or are in school?

It won’t be easy, but you can do it because you love him. Continuing to keep his life comfortable enough that he doesn’t need to change would be enabling his addiction, which isn’t good for him either. You can make a hard choice while also loving and caring about him. His addiction and his reaction to your boundaries is not your responsibility to manage, and doing so actually handicaps him, doesn’t support him. Separate who he his from the addiction he is struggling with. If it’s your goal to be a supportive force in his life, you can’t do that effectively if you are struggling to keep yourself okay. You matter, and he matters, love the both of you while he is too sick to.

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Are you two actually exclusive. Or just seeing each other?

Your friend is not being unloyal to you. She doesn't know that you are with this guy. I'll bet you a million dollars that he told her that he was single. She has no idea.

Do not take this out on your friends. He is the scumbag.

Show her a picture of your guy. Make sure it's acutely the same guy. Then, trick him into meeting her while you are with her. See what he says about the situation. Leave him. And stick with your friend.

She may have negative qualities but I always try to understand where she is coming from. It's safe to say that I'm the understanding one between us

I’m sober. Nobody OD’d because of you or drank themselves into a hole over you. It’s what we do and it has nothing to do with you. You obviously are in a pattern of choosing men with addiction issues. First. Go to Al-anon or Nar-anon. It’s for people who love addicts or alcoholics. You will learn so much. The most important thing you will learn is that you can’t fix these people. We have to want sobriety. I would suggest seeing a therapist. You do not want to build a life with an addict or alcoholic. We destroy everything good in our paths. We lie cheat and steal to get what we need. It’s a terrible life and it never ends well. Leave this relationship. Go to some meetings. See a therapist.

I’m not sure what you expect. You married a child. Expect childish behavior.

Your boyfriend has laid out a boundary: he does not want to be with a partner who watches porn. While it may be a boundary I don’t agree with, he is entitled to have it.

You now have to decide what is more important to you. The ability to watch porn, or being with this particular person. No one can make that choice for you, only you can do it. If this is a compromise you are unwilling to make, it means that you and he are not compatible as partners.

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We don't eat together because we're in a LDR

It was not a wise choice. But deep down I know that she doesn't want fish or maybe something else. And I forgot about it and I thought it was fish.

I do know her. I spent months trying to read her mind. Memorize all the hints that her body and words are giving when she's frustrated. And I was hurt that one simple mistake, she said that I don't even know her

Do I need to improve? I know for myself that I make mistakes. But every mistake I make, I always remember it and make it a lesson.

You need to understand that you matter. You're focused entirely on him and how he might feel and/or what he might do. But what about your happiness? Should you just resign yourself to being unhappy?

You have a lot of life left to live. You don't want to spend it miserable. You're not responsible for what might happen to him if you leave. Is he putting the same thought and effort into worrying about your feelings while constantly lying to you? Put that into perspective. Good luck.

I think the fact that he wouldn’t show you the questionable threads is a huge red flag. And the fact he lied about it and the story kept slightly changing.

Y’all clearly have trust issues. Maybe he’s cheating, maybe not, but it needs to be addressed seriously

Thing is, when I first found out.. I told her that I have a feeling he’s just using her and she said it’s okay I’m using him too I’ve never been in a relationship or any sexual relationship let me have fun I can block my feelings… and I couldn’t explain to her why I kept insisting on her leaving him. She got mad with me and told me she won’t tell me anything about him anymore …