You want that? You want to be with a person who is using another person?

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Sorry hon. You're more than likely a FWB type of thing too.

Coming from a mam who was with a woman exactly hiw tou are describing. Run.

The dude is a player and you just don't want to see it.

So he's cheated, you want to cheat and the relationship is generally toxic. Why are you still in it?

You’ve gotta use your words babe. You have to ask for what you want. Very few people have psychic abilities. But most people will adjust their behavior for someone they love if they know precisely what is expected.

He sounds like a sweetheart and I’m sure if he knows what you want he will try.

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A bit immature and cringy imo but, you know the the person you are enamoured with better. Like so much better that you have to ask strangers to help you make a supposedly personalized play list. You two must be soulmates since you know soooo much aboth him.

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It's always easier to blame other people than to recognize that you're in a dysfunctional relationship. The problem here isn't these friends but is rather your boyfriend (and you, because it takes two to cock things up this badly).

I feel like if both parties are actively working on something you shouldn’t be going out and dating, but I thought I understood from your post you weren’t even really talking over the break, taking a really long time to respond, right?

Sounds like intrusive thoughts, do those happen with other things or just jealousy?

Stop focusing on him and focus on yourself.

What do you want for you, your future and your future kids?

It is okay to be selfish, especially when it comes to the health of your future.

I know it is easier said than done, but leave. Your future self will thank you for it.

Sounds like he wants another mom. Him dating someone so young (fresh out of HS) is a good indication that he can’t hold healthy relationships and probably wants an impressionable mind he can train to be his mommy.

I’m not gonna pretend I was successful and on my own at 28, but I knew to try to carry my own weight. He’s old enough to do his own laundry, cook for himself and not be dependent on his mom for everything. A mother that cares is gonna baby her child, of course, but he needs to choose to be independent aside from that, and if he’s just laying being pampered… well his gonna expect the same from you.

She’s being emotionally abusive and manipulative. Don’t play into this. Assure her you definitely WILL make mistakes and it takes a lifetime to learn everything there is to know about another person. I’m sure she doesn’t know everything there is to know about you and she doesn’t even think that matters. The only thing that matters to her is that you worship her and make her your only reason to exist. I have been married 18 years and we are still learning each other.

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He tells me he loves me, he couldn't be without me, works hard to support us financially, he's protective, idk what ways is he supposed to?

40 something bf claimed to have no social media and further in, found tik tok with lots of inappropriate content . It really hurt. I’d only be worried if he’s doing something similar behind your back but not no social media for real

Oh no, he forgot to switch his troll accounts

You need to communicate these thoughts to him and meet half-way more in your love languages (for example he hugs & kisses you more whilst you put some effort into gift giving Etc). And make time for each other! Go on some dates.

Re: depression. You should really go get that diagnosed, especially if you suspect that this has been going on since childhood. You could have clinical depression and if so, this can be easily cured/countered with medication. Don't put up with health issues any longer than you have to, this depression is also likely negatively exacerbating issues in your self esteem and relationship.

Lol, 35M here who stayed in a marriage for 10 years where we had sex a total of 6 times, I can confirm this. Just get out of it.

I’m sorry to tell you this but M&S, while terrible, are not the biggest issue. Your relationship is terrible already. You are young, but you should know that it is not normal to be afraid to bring up issues because you are afraid of your BF. That is emotional abuse.

Further, he doesn’t trust you for no reason and he keeps talking abt wanting to break up.

There is no relationship here worth fighting for. You are young, you will find someone who actually loves you and cares about you and trusts you and values you. I promise

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This the advice you should listen to OP. He isn't as good partner as you think, if he is fine compromising your happiness for his ego.