He will use the number, but not asking for help. He will ask her to lunch or coffee next.

Its in the players handbook

Its such a common thing. Go to google and search "if a girl gives you her number is she interested"

Im not saying your GF is interested but many people are just too nice (naive) and this can cause misunderstandings

I just really care about him and don't want to hurt him

Yeah. Sounds like he’s burning the candle at both ends and just konks out when he has a moment to rest.

I am not a particularly romantic or emotional person. I’m an engineer. That might be a reason, it’s not an excuse. But seriously, I just don’t think about some of these things. I love my partner very much and he’s a wonderful human. But like when he called this morning? My first thought was “oh no, something is wrong!” Because in my mind, why would he call if there wasn’t a problem or he forgot some gear I need to bring up tomorrow. LOL I’m more of a functional/efficient communicator where I reach out when I need something, not “just because”.

People are people-y. We are all different. In a healthy relationship though, we ask for what we want and we get to give what our partner needs. We are all works in progress!

Good luck!

Then just go straight to dumping her. You don’t need her to confess unless you think your friend is lying to you.

I agree. This is cringey as fuck.

So what are you planning now?..For her to leave him so that you so can continue your relationship with the guy?

OP, you are terrible friend.

If she is your best friend as you say, you would immediately tell her that he is playing you both, that he is sleeping with her and also dating you. You both should have then CONFRONT the POS, give him a piece of your mind and drop him, bloke him!.

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This is a toxic relationship for both you and your boyfriend.

>My boyfriend keeps constantly bringing up going on breaks (I don’t believe in them) or breaking up

He's trying to break up with you, without seeming to be the bad guy. It's best if you break up with him. Playing mind games is toxic, and not something you need.

Can you live somewhere with roommates?

Or can you look into transferring to another nursing program? There are plenty and I'm sure it wouldn't be too hard to transfer the credits

Point is, you know you can't keep this up for 3 years right?

You tell her you’re not interested in just being friends for your own well-being.

"What ways is he supposed to?"- for example putting any effort into your sex life, gift giving, going out together and caring about important things going on in your life (Etc). As a couple you should be putting in equal efforts for each other.

Telling someone you love them is easy. And I'm pretty sure that even if you weren't together, he would still work hard at his job.

"Protective"- In what ways is he protective? Caring about your partner is a super basic requirement.

Look, people can get comfortable and lazy in relationships. You feel dismissed and unsatisfied because you have good reasons to. But any suggestion from people here that your partner might be at fault of this and you get immediately defensive about him. It sounds like you don't want to deal with the source of the problems where they actually lie and are just trying to blame/rationalize yourself into accepting these negative feelings as your own fault and responsibility.

If your partner won't put in effort (and you won't address your partners lack of effort), then there is no hope of anything getting better.

I do have money and a job , it will just be hard because rent is so high. I have a car payment as well I can’t become like homeless. My entire family moved 4 hours away so I don’t have anyone here. I have 3 years left in the nursing program.

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Thank you for your advice. I am sorry for being unclear about one thing : what he meant by that he cannot do anything about it was rather about his PE problem than his oral sex skills.

He tries to accomodate my wishes and needs regarding oral sex and other kinds of foreplay but I simply do not find it that great. The only option we have(I think) is for me to let him practice it on me (which is what I've done for the past 5 years, and yes,I gave him feedbacks during and after the act), but having to endure bad oral sex until he gets better is..well..

At least he is trying in some parts and I appreciate it, but it is just objectively not enough. I thought it would be cruel of me to blame/leave him for something he did put effort in but ended up being bad anyway

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A common thing cheaters do is accuse their partner of their behavior in order to justify their own in their heads.

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Ofc you know that you have to get out of the relationship. The problem is the living situation. Do you have a job or any kind of money? Is there anyone you can stay with temporarily?

How long is the program? If it ends this May I'd tell you to just tough it out for now. If there are more semesters - you can't keep doing this. What kind of program is it? How long does it last? And do you work at all?

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