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Reply to I 20F still think about my ex 20M by lexsau

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Reply to [UPDATE] My (23F) boyfriend (26M) got his ex-girlfriend pregnant by ThrowRAexgfpregant

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trishsf t1_jeezeie wrote

Reply to comment by Tired_penguin9678 in I (23F) feel like a horrible person because I am not sure I can continue supporting boyfriend (26M) with his addiction problems. by Tired_penguin9678

You can’t help an addict. The only person who can help is the addict. He has to want to be sober. Then he would need to commit to sobriety. I really suggest Nar-anon. Ask your therapist about it. It would really give you more insight into the mind of an addict (scary place) and help you realize that you are powerless in this situation.

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slvstrChung t1_jeezbni wrote

Reply to I (26T) set my boyfriend (26M) up on a fake hookup date to see if he would cheat by [deleted]

So just dump him. You already know the truth about him.

But you also now know the truth about yourself, which is that you're not ready to be in a healthy relationship. A healthy relationship requires trust. What would have happened if he had declined to hook up? You show up at the date, all adoring and happy, "Oh honey, you passed the test, I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with you!," and he responds, "...Wait. That was a test? You don't trust me?" And he dumps you on the spot.

You're allowed to have trauma from your previous relationships. But bringing it into your next one is a recipe for trouble. You need to overcome it first.

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ThrowRAforever459 OP t1_jeeyvbc wrote

Reply to comment by cinnamongirl73 in Skype infidelity? Am I crazy? I'm 35F and my bf is 41M and we're in a LDR. I know how it sounds, but please read. by ThrowRAforever459

Happy cake day! And thank you for your thoughts. I can assure you I’d make a terrible undercover spy, and apparently so would he lol.

The quick glances didn’t sit right with me either. I’m leaning towards going to a nearby hotel for a couple days to give this all a think.

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