God this is childish. Just break up. He clearly would cheat and this has broken your trust but just to clarify if you’re at the point where you’ve rationalized setting your SO up? It’s time to leave.

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I think you just need to date someone else who's a better fit.

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Wasn't looking for a relationship but ended up with a kid? Slippery slope I see

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No I didn’t. I confronted him that I found out he’s been messing with another girl and he called me crazy and blocked me

Happened naturally we met at a time when I wasn't looking for a relationship or anything and we clicked and it went from there.

Go tell her about this.

Just dump him. Or, keep him if you like toxic relationships. As toxic relationships go, this one has some real potential.

Dude, she's just not into videogames. And I think you need to accept that than continually trying to incorporate them into your relationship together.

You shouldn't need to give up videogames, but if you play them so much it leaves no actual time for any quality time in your relationship together, then you have a problem with videogame additction. Videogame time should completely not replace date or down time together nor interfere with your sex life.

If you don't have time to meet the basic needs of a relationship because of the extent to which you play videogames, then you need to be realistic about this. Your GF is telling you that she's not into games but you are ignoring that because you don't want to cut down on any of your game time for her. Will your GF always come 2nd to your full-time videogame schedule?

You aren't really meeting half way for her at all if your version of meeting half way is to try to make her play games with you (and you won't accept anything else other than some version of that). How about you agree to playing videogames a little less and doing something IRL with her once or twice a weel? Because this is what she needs (and it's not a tall ask).

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She enjoys going to concerts! Which we usually go to 2 -3 a month. She likes to read and has tons of books to catch up on. Perhaps we could take the time to read each night. (Even though I'm not a big reader myself).

Relationships do require a lot of attention. I feel like I see my friends online (Specifically the ones we've seen get married) and as a couple they love doing the online thing as a couple. I've tried to welcome her into my social circle online, as I don't want her to be lonely. She tells me she's just not comfortable being a part of my group of friends online. Which, they've all tried to welcome her as best they can.

Perhaps though, this is just not something my girlfriend does not want to do and would rather be offline. Maybe I need to further reduce my online time but having come from doing this every evening (before our relationship), down to 3 evenings a week seems like a big compromise on my part.

Thanks for your response MikeLanglois!

Thank you all for your advice. I will ponder upon what you guys have said. I wrote this out of frustration while my boyfriend was sleeping. Now that he is awake I fear he might read this by chance and feel hurt. I will talk about this in a more serious manner with him. Thank you again and I wish you all a great day

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I don't agree with that assessment of you I think what you did is fair play.

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Idk what you were doing dating a 20 year old

Does your college have mental health resources?

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Honestly you kind of remind me of my bf. It turned out he was really upset I never say good morning first but he never vocalized how important it was. Can you let your bf know what’s really important to you?

He didn’t lie to you. And it wasn’t inconsiderate if he wasn’t certain the child was his. You don’t have to accept being kept in the dark, but you weren’t entitled to anything in this case. It was his important information to share how and when he chose to.

You trying to bait him wasn't good but his transgression is much larger. Just be straight with him and end things, its obvious that he was going to hook up with the fake profile person you created.