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RaelowTV OP t1_jefhyzb wrote

Reply to comment by Baezil in My (M25) GF (F24) said she's done by RaelowTV

Making sticky notes, setting alarms, debating on getting meds again, being more mindful of daily tasks, etc. The forgetfulness that comes with ADHD is rough but manageable and I'm trying to be better

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M0ti0nzz t1_jefhg8w wrote

Reply to I (20F) broke my bfs (21M) trust and don’t know how to fix it by [deleted]

UPDATE - I had a chat with him and he said I’ve ruined his life beyond repair , and how I’ve fucked him up so he can’t trust anyone again and started cutting and has mini heart attacks all the time .. I told him why would u stay with someone like that and he finally broke up with me and said the only reason hes breaking up with me is cuz i keep hinting at it and then said more names Bout me and said he needs a week to think and I ignored him

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Creative_Recover t1_jefhcfx wrote

Reply to im so depressed and stressed that she left me (21m) and she is (20 f) by [deleted]

You developed trust and possiveness issues because of how you yourself behaved, this is your karma. This relationship was not healthy and your GF has done the right thing by forming some strict boundaries.

What is actually different about the you now VS the one she blocked? Have you done any work on yourself at all, or have you just simmered, obsessed and smoked away during all this time?

Please find healthier ways of coping with your issues. And don't just get back with someone because you find it hard putting yourself out there in the dating scene. There's no point in talking about valuing connections when you treated your GF like this (cheating followed by control and possiveness).

You need to work on yourself before you get back onto the dating scene.

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ArrivalIcy9717 t1_jefgqzk wrote

Reply to comment by StellarManatee in My (25F) boyfriend (28m) is on holiday and adding girls on instagram during nights out by [deleted]

yeah I’ve given him the opportunity to be truthful about it. He keeps getting frustrated each time saying he keeps saying everything’s fine. He said he’s just adding people he meets who speak English because they’re not easy to find (he’s in European capital cities? so many people will be able to speak English). He keeps saying I don’t trust him etcetc and that he’s anxious and stressed and having a tough time whenever I ask him about it.

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Creative_Recover t1_jefg8qo wrote

Reply to I (40M) slept with my best friend (32F) by [deleted]

You both cheated on your spouses. And the alcohol is not the cause of this; you two have clearly been holding in a lot of feelings towards each other for a long time.

You can't forgot what happened. And these feelings that surfaced are not going to go away if you keep on being friends.

You two need to have a conversation about what happened and your real feelings towards each other. Friends don't have sex with each other by accident. If you 2 have a thing for each other then you need to get realistic and end things with your respective spouses because otherwise (sooner or later) you will cheat on them again.

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[deleted] OP t1_jeffyaz wrote

Reply to I [F32] had one of the worst fights with husband [M32] by [deleted]

While arguments between couples is normal and some tension is inevitable what u r describing is an abusive relationship where the guy is basically just a narc who is using your love for him to abuse you. I would suggest taking a break and reevaluating this entire relationship.

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