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one of the other guys has a girlfriend too which reassured me slightly when he first started going out loads

No just women, and I wanted to bring that up

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I would say, let the whole mess golf from the previous incident. When you’re around her, be friendly as friendly as she is with you just read the room basically. There isn’t really anything to fix you already. Apologize do not over apologize.

It's a single holiday.

He will get home and tell you how all the guys were doing it and he just had to fit in.

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I guess so.

Maybe it’d be best to completely ignore the whole thing from now on.

Thank you for your input, it’s appreciated.

Never have everybody’s family live with you. It’s a toxic mess. So that is what you could’ve done differently now get yourself out of there immediately and don’t go back ever no matter what he says.

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Talk about it, in detail. Talk about what needs to get done, and how often it should get done (you two may have differing opinions on this). Then divide it all up - if there are things you hate doing but he doesn't mind, he gets those, and vice versa what what he hates doing. Then the other stuff gets divided equally by the time it takes. Idea is that you each end up with a roughly equal time commitment to get your share done.

You could decide to switch it off by week or month or whatever, so nobody's stuck with the same chores forever.

I agree with you that you shouldn't be "in charge' and have to tell him to do things. But I'm guessing from your description that his opinion on how often things need to get done differs from yours, so you get to the point where you think it needs doing before he does. Y'all just need to talk about it and come up with a plan than works for you both, which seems fair and equal.

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I see, you've learned two things:

• You aren't ready for relationships, you manipulated your boyfriend into agreeing to cheat on you. That's a huge betrayal of trust, no matter the result, this foundation is not a good path forward for the two of you.
• Your boyfriend is willing to cheat on you, you'll never unknow that, so it's probably time to break up with him.

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You're not married, and have no kids together. You can leave for any reason, or no reason at all. Any break-up will hurt someone. Just accept that there's no good way to break up with someone, rip the bandaid off, and move on.

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Erm, no girls don't "move on the next day or so", they are just as feeling as men are. Using people to move on from other people is also foolish (hearts don't work like that), this Reddit is full of people trying to seek advice after suffering problems because they rushed into new relationships before getting over old ones. Plus it is also quite devaluing to other people to be used like this; how would you like it if someone was only talking to you so that they could stop thinking about someone else?

You two were in a relationship. You need time to heal and work on yourself and get over this one before you venture out into the dating scene again. Don't use women to validate, medicate or distract yourself; you need to learn how to value and make peace with yourself on your own terms.

I would question what happened on the boys trips. Most married women know when your husband buy jewelry or lots of roses that he’s done something bad. The fact that he’s insecure about you going is even more telling he’s afraid. Maybe you will do what he did something is up.

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> He came back and immediately was very affectionate, like would not leave my side for a minute and constantly touching and hugging me even in public.

While he was on that trip, he probably had a talk with his friends wherein he compared your relationship to theirs and realized he needed to step up his game.

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