Then, put it to the test. Let's call it an experiment. Get your squad and go out and post some photos with hot guys. Just get the photos. You can let them know what you are doing in case you are concerned about leading them on. Follow a few of them. See what he does.

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Then A probably doesn’t want to cross a certain boundary with his colleague. Also, is H his brother or cousin?

Apologies. I got my terms mixed up. I wasn't trying to correct you. I thought I was talking about the same thing. Thanks for the clarification.

H is his cousin brother..but they stay in a joint family, and live in the same house

Yes those are probably things I should have included in the post. He said that he would be okay with marrying me when we get a new place to live. A couple months ago we just moved in to a new place which is why I'm now so anxious about it. We both agreed to have kids and a home within the next 5-6 years.

Thank you

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I want to first confirm if A also likes me or not. Cz there's a restraint here. I broke up an year and half ago from my ex of 5 years. And A is his colleagues. We met through my ex. He has always respected me and treated me as his homie's gf. I am not sure if he will be able to see me as a potential gf so soon or not. So want to give this friendship a little more time before I confess my feelings

I’m a fan of his/hers/ours where we each put in to “ours” to cover shared expenses like rent, utilities, etc based on % of total income then the rest of our earnings goes to our personal accts.

I make a lot more than my partner so I pay more. I also do all of the groceries, cover the vacations, and cover any big house expenses like…new stove or new furniture or whatever.

My partner covers his credit card, stuff for his kiddo, his vehicles, etc. I cover my student loans, credit card, horse/dog expenses, etc.

I don’t think it would be fair in my (44F) situation to have my partner paying 50/50 when I make so much more. And I don’t feel like his money should go to my hobbies and expenses and I don’t want to pay for his if I’m honest.

Everyone is different but this works for us and it makes things so easy! If I want to go buy a horse trailer or he wants a new boat, we don’t even have to discuss it really.

Have you brought any of this up to her? At all?

Trust me, people who go on dates back-to-back aren't practicing anything healthy (its a very problematic behaviour) and aren't as confident as they seem. You need to get over this whole "Popular people have life better" mindset stuff, the grass is never as green on the other side as you'd think.

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Well if you can't use condoms and she doesn't want to try anything else, then doesn't seem like anything is going to change... She should go back to her doctor and tell them about her libido issues though, maybe they can try a different type of BC pill.

You are not wrong. I have a hard time being logical and pragmatic when it comes to relationships.

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I know that, why do you think I’ve stayed with her for nearly 6 months despite our dry spell. I really love her and I want to stay with her. I was hoping for suggestions to put the spark back in

Yeah , this will not improve. You discussed what you need on several occasions, and he can’t give it to you consistently.

It’s time to call it.

Yeah... even if he hasn't cheated if this is his behaviour on a holiday (befriending "english speakers" but only the hot girls ones) then use this time apart to figure out is this guy worth wasting more time on. In the meantime go take some time to yourself. Rest and pamper yourself. By the time he comes back you'll know whether or not to continue the relationship after he's quite deliberately given you a miserable time while he was gone.

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Bigger, looser condoms is the answer. You can special order them online.

All of them with no luck

So is H his cousin or his brother? Why not just point blank just tell A how you feel about him?

Trust me, in my last relationship we tried everything, nothing seemed to work