Normally when a girl goes after the guy she told you not to worry about going back to her is a terrible idea. This seems no different. Let her go.

Don't be funny. Just say "hey, I thought it would be cool to get to know you better. Can I buy you some coffee?"

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Lucky man 😭 I'd be so much happier in ur situation cuz I don't mind the mood swings, the thing that gets to me is going back and forth on wanting to be with me

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My husband and I actually went through a couples training on this topic once as part of an “Adventure Challenge.”

The challenge asked us to both complete the Love Language survey to know for sure what our own love languages were.

After we completed the quiz, we shared the results with each other.

From there, we had to work together to come up with 3 ways that we could show our partner love through their love language instead of our own - 3 ways that we could agree would be nice to do.

For example, I’m all about words of affirmation, but my husband has a hard time with this. We learned that he is actually pretty good at using post-it notes to share that he loves me. So he will randomly sneak a post-it note with a cute message in my pocket when he’s ironing my work clothes or put a post-it on the bathroom mirror before bed so that I see it in the morning.

He’s all about quality time spent together, so I’ve agreed to prioritize happy hours at work where I’m allowed to invite him - he gets to spend time with my coworkers and me in a social setting which makes him happy. Note that I used to just ignore the happy hours and work through 6pm. So now, taking a break at 4:30pm to enjoy a couple social hours with my husband and friends is a big change for me, but one I gladly make because it aligns to his love language.

Maybe try that challenge with your boyfriend so that he also feels like you are also improving your love language for him, too? Less one-sided that way and you both get something out of it in the end!

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Saying "I've changed" is a meaningless thing. How did he change? Did he take time to understand why he did what he did? What did he learn about himself? Did he tell you what character flaw led him down that path? What life changes did he make to ensure that he would never be tempted to do that again?

If the only thing he can point to are wholly external things, cutting contact with his affair partner, giving you access to all his electronic, those aren't really him changing anything. He didn't tell you about the cheating. She did. She either felt guilt for doing it or she was retaliating against him for breaking it off. Either way he didn't feel guilty for having done what he did, only for getting caught.

If all he can give you are the words "I've changed", you're insecurity is valid.

Now what? I think your boyfriend and you should consider couples counseling and your boyfriend should discuss why he did what he did.

Yes, he’s probably lying to you.

You’re not making it ‘safe’ to tell you the truth because when he does, you’ll be angry.

This is a boundary you’ve set, he knows and agreed to the boundary.

What will you do if you’re 100% sure he’s been looking at porn?

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It sounds like he knew you were upset and had an interview today so he wanted to let you sleep…..

You’ve been so patient with all of my ranting. Thanks for actually breaking that down for me. What you’re saying does make sense. 🥲

Cam girls are not cheating. Period.

They are at worse a release.

I’d suggest you get into therapy. But I’d do it as a couple.

I think you may find, unless there is a medical reason, that the two of you have incompatible libidos.

If this is the case then my guess is you will either have to accept it or consider your situation and possibly look to part ways.

Every couple does this differently and there’s no right answer. I would go away separately and think about what you can afford and what you would each consider fair. As the person with the lower income, be very clear about what your budget is. Then sit down and have a conversation together and see if you can find common ground. If there isn’t a situation you’d both be happy with then I’d delay it until you’ve graduated.

My partner and I split everything 50:50 even though I make less. We’re not at a point of contemplating marriage or a similar long term commitment so pooling our money doesn’t make sense to me. But we based searching for a place on what I was able to afford.

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>Sec is really important to some people and for those people being rejected and shat all over for wanting it is damaging to their mental health.

What? Again with vilifying of OP's gf. She's not maliciously withholding sex. What is your problem? Not being in the mood shouldn't be damaging to your partner's mental health if there's proper communication happening. Like I said earlier, the best course of action here is to communicate feelings and desires with each other as it seems that all OP has ever done is just ask for sex. He doesn't know the why. He needs the why before a solution or compromise can be made.

>If I started dating someone and everything was normal then they were like “oh by the way I’m ace and will never have sex with you” I’d block their number right then.

You've exposed your ignorance, because ace-folk still have do and like having sex. It's just not as frequent or a motivator for them like it is for most. Please leave your bias at the door. I don't think you're able to have a level-headed discussion on this topic as long as you keep making bias claims against ace-folk.

Both of you need to work on communication. Money is a tough topic for a lot of couples. You need to talk about it openly, honestly, and without getting angry at each other. Give him a little space and then time to have a talk about improving communication so that when you do disagree it doesn't become a huge problem, just an issue to work through together. Then together explore some resources on good communication in relationships, like this - you can find a lot with a few simple google searches:

https://www.healthline.com/health/lack-of-communication#signs-of-a-problem