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Why can’t both your grandparents and he celebrate the same achievement on different occasions? Alone time and time with different friend and family groups outside of a romantic relationship is definitely healthy. You two should explore why this bothers him and establish some boundaries.

Sounds like a good problem to have brother

She should divorce you. She’s just had a baby and you’re moaning about her cooking. Fuck off with your toddler entitlement. You should be cooking for her. Idiot. Or troll.

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His coworker is being inappropriate. He needs to make it clear that he is not going to discuss anything not work related with her.

"My marriage is not a topic I'm going to discuss. Is there anything work related you need to talk about?"

At these work events he can excuse you both from sitting next to her. "Excuse us. We're going to mingle" or "I see John over there. I need to talk to him. Excuse us."

Being jealous of your grandparents is a bit off.

Yes, trust your gut; that's a red flag. Why can't he celebrate you just because they are too? Feels like he's doing that on purpose to try to make you jump.

Ok. He’s mid 20’s and still doesn’t know how to look after himself. He doesn’t care. That’s going to be hard for you to change him so you need to decide if you can live with it.

Do you have enough savings to cover you the rest of the time in school or will you have to get loans? What are your expenses now? I would say a good starting point is that moving in shouldn't cost you more than you're paying now (until you graduate and get a full time job) - so that means bf either needs to accept your budget and move into a place you can afford OR he needs to pick up anything above and beyond your budget. Unless you guys can agree on a place that would be cheaper for you - which would be great.

So say you currently are sharing an apartment and you pay $500 for rent and $100 that covers the utilities and you spend around $250 on groceries. If your bf is fine with finding a place that's $1000 total that similarly sized so utilities will be around the same and he spends similar on groceries - great! It's reasonable to split it 50/50 if it means your expenses don't go up.

Now if your bf won't agree to any place that's less than $2000 and is twice as big so utilities will be more and he insists on lobster and wagyu once a week - then he needs to pick up the extra above your budget. So you still pay $500 and he'll be paying $1500 for the apartment.

If you're currently living alone and you're looking only at one bedroom then it'd be reasonable to not want to pay as much as you are now to share the space with another human. Harder to come up with an easy number to select from that though. I'd say between 50-75% of what you are paying now as your max would be fair - depending on if that 75% gives you a better/bigger place or not.

JFC. What do WE even do at this point? There's zero good advice we can give that people who pose these questions will follow

You are setting the bar way low here by repeatedly asking about one something that obviously was fine for you to do. Your entire situation is a mess.

Thanks. I just feel bad when i think I've upset someone and want to make sure i dont do it again.

Maybe don't call it a date. That puts pressure on it. Just make it super casual. She'll probably get the idea that you're interested by saying you want to get to know her better. Either platform is probably fine, but Instagram messages seems better to me for some reason.

If tipping isn't the expectation, then just do not tip. Follow the norms of wherever you live.

Don't worry so much if this one waitress was offended, she was probably just caught off guard. Relax, let it go - you didn't do anything malicious or with bad intent, so all is good.

Yeah i felt confused why he was giving her a tenner anyway. He said he wanted to be nice. The whole situation makes me so confused but in the service industry its becoming more normal for wait staff to receive tips, so we usually dont get this response.

No! Noooo! Noooooooo! You take her back, and she'll know that she can get away with it and you'll just take it. If you take her back you just confirm for her that her lack of respect for you was and is warranted. She'll ruin your life if you don't run away as fast as you can.

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She's looking for any cracks in your relationship that she can exploit, either because she's looking for an affair, thinks she's entitled to his attention or for some other leverage in the workplace.

Top marks to your husband for shutting her down and not taking the bait but he needs to cover his arse with his boss and HR and let it be known with them that her intrusive behaviour is making him uncomfortable.

…did you express dissatisfaction in her food? How did you word this? This seems purposefully vague in order for you to blame her.

Just be nice. She just went through a huge medical trauma. The fact that she’s still cooking for YOU…you should be taking care of her…cherishing her. She brought you a child. You can learn manners.

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So you're saying you have probably Covid and instead of knowing that and how it can affect your sense of taste, you blamed her for bland cooking...? Is that what I'm reading here?

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