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Reply to How to tell my mom (54F) that I (21F) was SA'd by Apprehensive-Rest470

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explicitlinguini t1_jegdf9u wrote

Reply to I (34F) am in love with my best friend (44F) who is also my ex gf. But I’ve been with my bf (45M) for nearly a year and we’re about to move-in and I’m feeling uneasy about the dynamic and how to handle this. by [deleted]

You essentially were her side-hoe for all of this, do you understand that? For being so in-love, she chose him over you. How much more does that mean she cares for him? She got to have her cake and eat it too, as you were single in the beginning but she got to have you AND her boyfriend. Gross. And she knew what she was doing just as much as you do.

Kay was cheating on her partner to do romantic things with you, regardless of the lack of kissing/sex, and now you are emotionally cheating on your partner. This not a sustainable friendship with feeling like that present, but you seem to understand that.

A smart decision would be to be honest with Tom about your whole history with her. And I get the feeling you weren’t honest with him initially because you know the whole thing was wrong. Secondly, you should rethink your friendship for Kay.

If you married Tom, don’t you think it would topple his world to understand your feelings about him have no stability? Because you will be thinking of Kay in the back of your mind.

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yowen2000 t1_jegd93m wrote

Reply to comment by Zealousideal-Meet588 in I(25F) like A(25M) but A's brother H(24M) likes me by [deleted]

Sure, your ex has no opinion here.

But you and A do, so again, do you want to be in the situation where you're dating someone that your ex is close to?

And in all of the above, I mean this in the kindest way possible, but you said a lot, without saying much at all, we don't know if A has reservations about it too. Unless you thought he was referring to himself.

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Reply to How do I speak to my partner(30M) about what I expect(25f) without sounding bossy? by Whoevenameye

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MckittenMan t1_jegcr83 wrote

Reply to Is there something wrong with me (23f) boyfriend (23m) by throwRaPurse

This:

>It makes me feel like I’m alone.

Is a result of:

>he last few months has been treating me like trash. He never touches me, initiates sex not even kiss me. I have to like beg for his attention or intercourse.

Not because of anything wrong with you.

He is not giving you his end of the relationship.

When someone checks out, its time for you to check out.

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