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Reply to [31F] [31M] My bf lied about his job by [deleted]

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Reply to Trying figure out if i (19m) overreacted and got mad at something I shouldn't have with my (20f) by sgtrock525

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MoraDK_ OP t1_jege9bp wrote

Reply to comment by Dirty_Questions69 in My friend is dating my ex, how do I stop thinking about it and what should I do? We've been dating for a year. M18 F18 by MoraDK_

I know that when we were friends, he was seeing three girls at the same time, and when they wanted a real relationship, he would disappear. Also, I found out from another friend of mine that he had been wanting to start a relationship with my girlfriend for a long time, but I was a barrier for him.

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tickleyourfanny t1_jege7s3 wrote

Reply to (21-F)Living and sleeping with my ex that I’m still in love with (29-M) by NoCartographer1126

>How do I get him back?

you want to know how to get him back? really get him back? you move out on your own, having your own separate space, then you invest in yourself for a bit. Get that thing you need when 'working on yourself', which is time away to reflect and truly change..After a couple years or so(probably longer to be safe), when you are better situated and in control of your own life, you can then exercise the option to share that with someone else. He will absolutely love it!! Seeing the true change, knowing you are an equal partner and not just someone he needs to take care of to fuck, will make take this relationship to the next level. You got this girrrrll.

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One_Selection7199 t1_jege2j0 wrote

Reply to I (24F) am not sure how to split finances with my (29M) partner that’s fair / reasonable by GunterFanClub

When I was in a situation like this I said: I pay X for renting a room and it's my budget. If you want to rent an apartment together, you have to pay the rest or wait till I'll find a full-time job. The same was with food. He ate twice as much as me, so I couldn't imagine paying 50/50 and sponsoring him food, when I was a poor student.

You shouldn't make your financial situation worse just because your partner probably wants to live in a good apartment.

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Biauralbeats t1_jegdydu wrote

Reply to 42M 40F 17yr relationship - Husband trying not to look elsewhere for sexual gratification by ThrowRA9985

Maybe it is time you put your cards on the table and tell her this is a problem for you and you want to take more proactive steps to address this...would she consider...

a) medication to increase libido

b) sexual therapy to explore other ways to be sexual and satisfied

c) a marriage encounter or retreat to reestablish the importance of intimacy (not necessarily sex)

or else you need to look at:

a) medication to decrease your libido

b) sexual therapy to be happy with less noogie

c) a marriage encounter or retreat to find other ways to be intimate that don't involve sex

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explicitlinguini t1_jegdv97 wrote

Reply to comment by robintheyounger in I (34F) am in love with my best friend (44F) who is also my ex gf. But I’ve been with my bf (45M) for nearly a year and we’re about to move-in and I’m feeling uneasy about the dynamic and how to handle this. by [deleted]

Exactly. Even if she dropped Tom… Kay already chose to not be with her. What is the point of living through the frustration? OP choose the person who will pick you first. Kay already chose who comes first in her life, and she didn’t pick you.

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