Kill here with kindness. Make it your MISSION to help her shape her man up!

Invite yourself over and make her your best friend

Well I'm looking at it as shouldn't we decide together not automatically let's just do what he chose. It makes me feel like I'm moving into his place not our place.

Absolutely this

Yeah, he's clearly still doing it. But you're going to have a hard time finding a guy who doesn't do it. You can find plenty who will keep it hidden from you and lie about it when caught, though.

No, you should not. She can't be trusted. Do you really want to live with someone who would do that? I promise she went back to sexting when she left.

Listen to your friends.

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You were mad. The fact that she wanted you to pick her up within a half hour shows she really was just smoking. You have some accountability here.

“It’s deniable” that’s exactly what I thought. She could make a big fuss about it and make it seem like we confronted her over being nice.

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>On the dating app it stated that he is a banker, finance professional.

I haven't been on dating apps in ages.

Does this app have a pre-determined set of occupations you can pick from? If that is true, a finance professional could be the closest selection.

Those are virtually the same title in my opinion. Sounds like he is a financial professional of development projects.

And if he was a banker at a point, that seems like transferable job skills. Finance professionals in banking can be the financial advisor in developing projects.

Have you ever inquired to him as to why his bio says that?

He sounds exhausting. Time to ask the question. Is this how you want to live your life? You can only change the situation, you can't change him.

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Ask him.

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She never lied to you. When you start dating someone this is the way things can go, sometimes things just don't work out. And if she was still in a party mindset and you weren't, that wasn't going to work out either.

You had fun with her right? Remember the good times, if they really were good times, you will eventually learn to appreciate them as a fond memory. Take the experience for future reference, you now have a better idea of what you do and don't want than you did before meeting her.

I dated a girl like her for a couple of months and we had a ton of fun together (much more in a party stage of life than I was), it didn't last, neither of us really seemed to expect it to, but I don't think either of us regrets the time we spent together.

You're very self absorbed. Have a read through everything you've written.

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"Confronting" her is just going to make you like like the bad guy -- or your partner look like the bad guy; what she is doing is deniable. She's just a worker in your building; can you both ignore her? She says HIIIIIII to your partner; he ignores. You see her, you ignore. This isn't a person worth your feelings of discomfort.

>She told me she said she didn’t want serious from the beginning

I dont really know why you can't accept that she already told you. More than once really..here listen to this song a bit, sums up your situation and what she wants.

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May be he is content to be with you

She told you she didn’t know what she wanted. You didn’t establish exclusivity. You also said you didn’t know what you wanted. It’s why we date. To find out if we’re compatible. You weren’t. She didn’t use you. It just didn’t work out. I think you need to move slower next time for your own sake.

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He is very, very controlling now that he feels he has no control in his life. He is trying to control you since it is the only thing he feels he can. Being out of work to a man is much harder since they are socialized to be bread winners.

Honestly, if you are scared I'd get out of the relationship. Fear is not normal and you should listen to that fear.