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Sure, tell him. I wouldn't expect it to go well but he should probably know this about you.

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I used to share food in my family until I got a little older and it just got kinda gross for me but I think it bothers me more that it’s between siblings, where saliva is being exchanged, etc. it makes me uncomfortable. Should I tell him? Would that be weird?

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Yeah we usually do that

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Great. Then dont date party girls, unless you want to party..Looks like you just learned a life lesson. Kudos to you for the personal growth.

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i think he's lucky you're pretty open minded. rather than making this an issue maybe you can actually enhancing your sex life.

maybe brainstorm what you both can do to experience the thrill together. maybe if it's involving stranger then do some light exhibitionism together for a start.

Why is that though? Why is your entire sense of self-worth connected to a woman you briefly dated who was completely honest with you about what she wanted from day one?

It seems like she enjoyed your company, but you wanted to get serious, and she didn't. So, she did the right thing and left you. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you or that you aren't worth having a relationship with. It only means that she was not the right woman to start a relationship with.

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Your SO cheated on you, but you want to take it out on the person he cheated with? Your boyfriend is the one that didn't honor his commitment to you. Why don't you punish him and leave the other guy alone?

Don't do it.

So I shouldn’t tell him it makes me uncomfortable? They’re super close, his sister has even said that they’re “weirdly close” and I think this aspect is part of the weird close and it grosses me out every time it happens

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So, before I dated the girl I described above, I dated a girl that was similar in the sense that she didn't know what she wanted, she was honest about it like your girl.

I allowed myself, probably much like you, to become invested in the relationship at a level I shouldn't have. I too was very distraught when the relationship ended due to us wanting different things (casual vs relationship).

What I learned there, and what you'll come to learn in the future, is to really listen when someone says what they want, if you match their level of commitment you'll be far less hurt, but it can still hurt, a romantic connection ending is never without feeling, but it will hurt far less if you stay realistic about what your relationship is and is not.

So keep that in mind. I think with time you'll come to appreciate this relationship you had with this girl, I was eventually able to with the girl I described here. We really did have a great time while it lasted and I learned very valuable lessons for future relationships.

Honestly he sounds a bit creepy to me. And and I said, he’s not making you comfortable right now. Getting to know someone early on should be fun instead of about worrying about whether you show the right sort of affection.

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Dude, if you are going to spiral after a 2 month casual hookup relationship ends then you need to not have those in the future. This girl did nothing wrong. She told you she wasn’t interested in anything serious and then ended things when she thought (rightly so) that you were taking things too seriously. Next time don’t sleep together until you have established that you are both interested in something serious.

Do you think her intention was to use you for sex? Your OP reads as of that's what you believe.

Thank you for your reply

The thing is, I'd found him a nice guy in the beginning and I'd said so to him, so I'm struggling thinking about saying the opposite now, even though it's true.

He says I am affectionate on my terms only. And what does that mean? Obviously I am affectionate on my terms, isn't everybody? Why would I fake affection when I'm not affectionate???