I mean how do you define close? She said that they have a “weirdly close” relationship and I agree. It’s too close for comfort and idk what to do about it. like he treats her almost as if he’s dating her and it’s weird to me because I would be uncomfy if my brother did that. My brother and I are close but I’m not really trying to share food with my bros

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How old is his sister?

This isn't about you. You've done nothing wrong. There is nothing wrong with you.

But she's not ready for serious and that's valid, too.

Do yourself a favor and when a woman says to you, "I want to date but I'm not ready to get serious.", tell her "No thanks." and walk away.

> How many girls am I gonna meet that haven’t been through the wild non stop sex and coke stage

I am thinking most women dont go through the non stop sex and coke phase. Here is a thought, stop going to clubs and bars and start meeting women elsewhere. And by elsewhere I mean not at your coke dealers house or at the meth lab your neighbor runs or at the Casula sex parties your pastor throws in the shed out back of the church.

I think using this to enhance our sex life is a great option, because I feel trying to bury the feeling would only create an issue down the road.. but he is persistent on the fact that it’s not something he wants to continue doing at any point in his life, and that this personality he takes on while having these conversations with other women is so detached from himself.

I even joked that the reason he possibly doesn’t speak to me the way he speaks to these other women is because he actually views me as a human being, which he chuckled and agreed to. It’s a very peculiar situation for sure.

You're not over reacting. We dont need to see chats to know this. He's weird in a bad way

Truth is people seldom get the closure, let alone the angry separation scene in a breakup. The sooner you stop trying to go out of your way to contact him, the sooner you’ll move on and be ready to start a new healthier relationship.

I wouldn't bring up that you're jealous because that's fucking weird. If it weirds you out, sure, but don't expect things to change because, again, it's not that big of a deal.

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Jesus Christ im sorry please leave this guy.

Just do it. You're having (justified) doubts this early on. End it now. Dont give him your address.

Put some distance between you and them.

The only one sexualizing these exchanges is you. Don’t be that person.

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You will feel so much better once you do it. You are prolonging your misery right now.

You got this. Be strong or pretend to be strong. That works, too.

You made her make the decision for you not to go,instead of making it yourself.(meaning that u want to go and she’s the only thing stopping you). Why would you want to meet up anyways.why would the ex? It’s all a bit weird .When in a serious relationship it’s best not to open the “get closure with my friendly Ex”. box.

All weekend or just few hours?

Your jealous of him sharing food with his sister, something that's pretty normal amongst family members. Your making a none issue a thing because of your own messed up views.

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I mean-- she is a party girl coking it up on the weekends... no judgement on her AT ALL for living the wild life right now, but also her life-phase is totally incompatible with a relationship, and it sounds like this was pretty apparent from day one.

The worst thing that could possibly happen is to get into a relationship with someone in a phase of life that's entirely incompatible with one.

In future, it would be best to ask, from the very beginning and well before having sex, "Hey, I am dating with the intention of finding a longer-term relationship. Is that also what you are looking for?"

If the answer is anything other than, "Yes, absolutely!," do not engage.

What do you mean?

Would it bother you if I send you screenshots of the conversation? I just want to make sure that I'm not overreacting. It's fine if that's too much, let me know!

absolutely normal. It's part of the grieving process. You can't just turn off your feelings. You will be angry, sad and all of the normal responses to losing a significant relationship.