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>My guy friend (24m) and his friends always say jokes to each other that I would personally find really offensive if they were said to me but they all seem to be fine with it.

This is a weird thing about guys. I used to be amazed at the harsh things my ex would say about or to other guys, like he had one co-worker he addressed as "maggot." Women just don't do that!

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>Should I distance myself from this friend?

It couldn't hurt.

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> Take her for a drink. Turns out she smashes coke and MDMA at events and on weekends.

so what have we learned? did you go on a second date or did you nope out and go find someone who doesnt smash coke and MDMA before teaching 7th graders how to read a geography map...

>It does seem quite hard to hide from I won’t lie

perhaps you are then with the coke problem then, since everyone you know does it. Everyone at work does it, everyone at your bars do it, Your dates do it, your roommates do it....holy shit man, where in London cuz I need some coke and it just seems to follow you everywhere. It almost seems like what you want isnt going to happen in the social circle you live in. So try a different circle, it really isnt hard to find non partiers.

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Really? You aren’t compatible. These aren’t issues. They are major differences in what you each want out of life. Break up. Do not let his miserable self who hates his life and can’t afford rent to move in. Read this back and pretend a stranger wrote it. The answer is obvious.

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Definitely something wrong with her. Your husband did a good job shutting her down.

Why are u still friends?

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Not only is he okay with someone discussing having casual sex with you, and not only is he acting incredulous that someone else is choosing to have sex with you, but he is commenting on your body after being asked not to and he's doing it in a disrespectful way. I would consider distancing from this friend.

You don't necessarily need to stay detached, it's more so "managing expectations".

But if this is true:

> Not when sex is involved. I literally cannot seperate my emotions from it

You've learned something valuable! Again, you'll likely eventually be thankful for this relationship, heartbreak sucks, but we eventually grow from it, don't get bitter from it. You are a living, feeling human being and that's okay!

So, next relationship, take your time to really date someone, to get to know them, so you know you two are on the same page. To start, you need to hear that they are at least open to a serious relationship. Or else, why even have a first date?

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No, I don't find it gross.

If you don't like the relationship that much, just leave. He can find someone that doesn't sexualize the relationship with his sister.

I absolutely do know. I wouldn’t be okay with a partner going to a hotel room with another woman.

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Being married doesn't automatically make you a good person.

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bring it up to him, but don't be surprised when it changes the light in which he views you, and also makes him wonder what other screwed up thoughts are in that head of yours.

Your sexualizing a relationship between siblings.

Sharing food and kissing are two very different activities and neither are actually connected especially not between siblings.

Their relationship is weird. She (20F) said so herself and I agree. Like they weird me out and this is one thing that I’m like??? Gross? Is it not gross?