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NoHandBananaNo t1_jegtcf1 wrote

Reply to Should I (26F) call out a friend (26F) for having elaborate plans to “fix” and defend her new partner (27M) (who is problematic at baseline) and stopped speaking to me bc she claims my bf (28M) “doesnt like” her bf? by Ohwell_genz

You can't "fix" her any more than she can "fix" John. She's just got to learn the hard way.

I think all you can do is reiterate to her that you are her friend and you are there for her, no matter who she is dating. But set and keep your boundaries around John.

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ladymeowskers OP t1_jegtbfe wrote

Reply to comment by HHIOTF in Narcissistic, gaslighting father (m63) me(f31) by ladymeowskers

I want to say that he needs the mental health check to “get well soon”, the only way I’ll ever allow him in my child’s life is if he gets therapy.

But as a narcissist, I know this feeling is naively optimistic.

I guess I just want to have all my boxes checked that I’ve done all I can do to have a relationship with him, without giving into his manipulation.

Because you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help himself. Maybe no one else has brought up the thought of therapy? Regardless of how fleeting it might be?

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Reply to my (21f) boyfriend (25m) thinks i’m cheating on him by li_bby

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ratakat t1_jegsnm1 wrote

Reply to comment by kokopotate in I 24F want to leave guy 23M I met a week ago by kokopotate

You don't know him yet. You barely know him at all. I don't want to put unnecessary fears in your head, but its best to assume the worst when you're leaving someone. From what you've said I'm scared of him. He hasn't had a calm or normal reaction to anything so far.

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Reply to I (24 M) just was told by my wife (24 F) that my stagnation has been too much of a burden on her and she wants a divorce after 10 years together by Astro_boii

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