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Reply to How do I (24f) deal with resentment towards my parents (65m, 60f) for their financial ineptitude? by [deleted]

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tickleyourfanny t1_jegu0uw wrote

Reply to my (21f) boyfriend (25m) thinks i’m cheating on him by li_bby

Ehh, whats a little cheating and death threats. From what I can tell thats pretty much standard in this sub..What do you want advice on, cuz virtually everyone is going to say leave him. which you will just ignore..Go to a real sub or source for abusive relationships cuz you are in one right now and wont believe it. Speak to a licensed professional, someone you can actual trust, and get their opinion on how to get out.

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yowen2000 t1_jegu01p wrote

Reply to My friends do jot tip when we go out. (M25) (M25) (M25) by hiphopbulldozer

> Other than this my friends are pretty good people

I have a hard time believing this if they use the tiniest reasons to not tip very hard-working service staff. I mean, this alone makes them by definition bad people, full stop.

Advice? Tell them you will no longer go out with them. That's what I'd do, I would not be able to be associated with that, it's so insanely disrespectful of someone that relies on you, especially larger parties, to pay their damn rent. And you're a damn saint for covering the difference, you should stop though, this isn't your responsibility.

Almost all problems servers have are not their fault, they are usually just the "messenger":

  • they aren't responsible for bad food
  • they aren't responsible for food that is late
  • they aren't responsible for bad management

I find it's quite rare that i can attribute a problem in a restaurant to a server

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Jmm1272 t1_jegtwnt wrote

Reply to I (F 42) have to leave my husband (M 44) but I don't know how. by ihavesomequestionz1

Ok I am very familiar with Asperger’s and what you described doesn’t sound like that, it sounds like he’s a selfish asshole and is emotionally abusive. Why do you have to follow weird rules and do things his way? What happens if you don’t? I HIGHLY recommend that you DONT do things his way, because it will be healthier for you and your daughter.

I am I’m the US so I don’t know what resources are available to help you. I hope he would have to pay you alimony. Best wishes to you

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hedbryl t1_jegtuds wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in [26M] [24F] she was only dating me for sex and I feel kinda disgusted by throwRA283108

If the only people interested in you are party girls, that's entirely a you problem.

Are you employed, not obese, have your own place (ideally owning, or renting without roommates), have reliable transportation, shower regularly? That's really all it takes. Be a productive member of society and eventually you'll find another productive member of society interested in you.

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yowen2000 t1_jegtrmn wrote

Reply to my (21f) boyfriend (25m) thinks i’m cheating on him by li_bby

He is projecting, or he is being manipulative, either way he is a big tall red flag if this is practically always a problem, not only that, he has cheated on you and he has LITERALLY threatened to kill you.

You are in a dangerous situation, he is already verbally abusive, it's not a stretch to think it could turn physical, my advice is to leave him, in a hurry. Can you go stay with your parents?

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Reply to My friends do jot tip when we go out. (M25) (M25) (M25) by hiphopbulldozer

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HHIOTF t1_jegtnfb wrote

Reply to I (24 M) just was told by my wife (24 F) that my stagnation has been too much of a burden on her and she wants a divorce after 10 years together by Astro_boii

I am so sorry you are hurting. You sound like you've had a really hard life. Getting help was the right thing to do and now you need more help.

Unfortunately, she can't fix you and it is hard and probably destroying her life now as well.

Life isn't fair, there is no such thing as fair. It sucks, I know.

All you can do is reach out to any family you have left and ask for their help. Reconnect with a counselor and start talking as much as you need to. It may not feel like it but with time this gets easier.

At some point you need to take control of your life and take actions like going back to school or even taking a class at a community college. One small step at a time until you can walk again and then run again.

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Reply to I (21M) want to un-come out to my partner (20F) by sackkity

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