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Imkode8719 t1_jegw8k8 wrote

Reply to How do I (24f) deal with resentment towards my parents (65m, 60f) for their financial ineptitude? by [deleted]

Why do you have to be financially responsible for them in such an extent you can't pursue your own goals in life? I think you shouldn't have to. Sit down with them and ask how they see their own future, and how they plan to cope after retiring. Tell them to what extent you can help and what not. Don't wait until you feel you have no other choice but to pay for everything just because they make poor choices

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Sarcastic_Troll t1_jegw17g wrote

Reply to My friends do jot tip when we go out. (M25) (M25) (M25) by hiphopbulldozer

As a server, I'd stop going out with those ppl. I don't think ppl who refuse to leave a tip are good ppl at all. They are screwing over the same broke college student, or worse, every time.

But they know that and don't care. So they aren't good ppl. They literally aren't paying for part of their bill. That's criminal.

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Reply to I (F27) feel like my male fwb (M28) is just wasting my time. Advice please by [deleted]

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KeepGoingYoureGood t1_jegvxr0 wrote

Reply to My (27M) Gf (26F) of 2 years did not invite me along to her bday movie stream night by BarnacleTop5037

I wouldn’t say you are overreacting. I would be really hurt to know that her friends are bringing their partners along too. Totally understand if it was an all-girls event. I get you don’t want to ruin her birthday so I agree and that you should wait till afterwards. It’s something that she needs to know how hurt you are. One birthday something sour happened and my husband felt bad bringing it up and potentially ruining it. We talked about it afterwards and sorted it out like adults and overall I’m glad he brought it up. If your girlfriend really cares about your feelings she will hopefully understand.

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sugarmag13 t1_jegvnd4 wrote

Reply to Narcissistic, gaslighting father (m63) me(f31) by ladymeowskers

Do not~

Breaking the cycle means letting it go. Sending anything to him will give him satisfaction. You will not get closure, the last word or a gotcha last word.

You should get some professional help to help you deal with letting go and breaking the cycle.

Do not respond and when he shows up next time tell your H to slam the door in his face. No texts, emails, or calls.

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UsuallyWrite2 t1_jegvkp0 wrote

Reply to How do I (24f) deal with resentment towards my parents (65m, 60f) for their financial ineptitude? by [deleted]

Why do you feel you need to pay for their retirement or medical care? If they’re in the US for example, they can get Medicaid and Medicare to cover their medical and assisted living or skilled nursing. You don’t have to swoop in financially and honestly shouldn’t.

I’ve dealt with similar and while I’ve helped my mother and grandmother organize things, I am not paying their way. You are not their retirement plan. Live your life.

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ihavesomequestionz1 OP t1_jegvex6 wrote

Reply to comment by Aussiealterego in I (F 42) have to leave my husband (M 44) but I don't know how. by ihavesomequestionz1

Thanks so much. I have time tomorrow and will go through the link you sent. I agree with you that he chooses this behaviour, as he treats his friends (he only has 2 or 3) and even strangers much kinder. Will listen to their problems and comfort people. But he won't do that at home. He was better with my daughter when she was a baby. But when she started to talk he backed away. Like I say, he hates communication. This is damaging to my daughter. She is so smart, as in, years ahead of her age academically. So she doesn't miss much, she catches everything he does. She has basically given up waiting for him to show love.

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Reply to I (F22) don’t know whether to leave or stay in my relationship with my bf (M21) by [deleted]

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Waste_Vegetable8974 t1_jegvb2p wrote

Reply to comment by saclayson in My gf [F22] is unhappy with me [M24] because I asked her if she'd be comfortable with my meeting an ex who asked to catch up. My gf wasn't comfortable with it, so I said no to a meetup. Said ex is in a serious relationship & we ended amicably, and apparently the latter fact makes my gf unhappy too? by [deleted]

Not a rule just common sense. Some folks can't deal with their SO exes being in the picture.

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