If you want a relationship cut him off and date around

Have you considered going to therapy on your own?

He sounds very petty and transactional. When I am sick, I don't want to be stressing about how I need to make up for it.

He has “a” say. You are giving him the only say. You have a day too! Again I’m not in the UK but in the US you can say you don’t have enough money for alimony, they court determines that. Some states determine fault for divorce and that impacts the amount, other states have community property and alimony is based on your income. In both examples there is a mathematical formula and they don’t just let someone say “I can’t afford it” you daughter may need child support or school expenses or braces or glasses ….all of those expenses would be determined in your divorce.

Here I found this

Spousal maintenance is an amount awarded by the Courts to be paid by the spouse with the higher income to the spouse with the lower income when a couple divorces. It is only awarded if one party cannot support themselves without payments from the other. It can be awarded for a specified term or for life in some cases.

https://www.family-lawfirm.co.uk/divorce-settlements/spousal-maintenance/

This next one has quite a bit of information

https://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance-service

What about things you want or like, vs expectations. Ultimately he may not meet your expectations or want to, but it’s important to share what you want in a relationship.

Isn’t that kind of all you’d expect from a FWB? It’s not a BF/GF relationship. And if he gets preoccupied with someone he may want a relationship with wouldn’t communication with them take priority? One might ask “what do you get out of this?” If it’s not fulfilling you then you can address it because you deserve to be happy.

she’s married, not buried.

He is just your fwb, there is no reason he should text you every day.

If that's something you want, maybe you like him as more than an FWB?

Or if you don't, it's JUST as important to set expectations in a FWB situation as it is in a relationship. Maybe if you guys talk about it you can find a compromise. But generally, texting every day/constantly is not standard in a FWB situation.

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She probably only got married because she can’t stand to be alone, not because she loves her husband. Some people are like that unfortunately.

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Just file for divorce and go. Once you're off the lease, let the landlord know who's living there.

He's using you. Stop letting him.

Easy don’t move in together until you come to an agreement or 50/50. I personally love 50/50 but it doesn’t have to be exactly 50/50. For me sometimes I’ll get something sometimes she will get something but it doesn’t have to equal the same amount. Bills should usually just be 50/50

You didn’t give enough context as to why you’re working part time, get a second job or just a full time one. Don’t dive in unless you can come to an agreement just asking for trouble.

I mean, unless you two specifically discussed expectations for your fwb situation and that included texting a certain amount, I don't really think he's necessarily doing anything wrong. It sounds like you're wanting him to put in the same effort that he would in a committed relationship.

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She should be legally able to discuss these things with her supervisor - including how to maintain the professional boundary when discussing them with the supervisor.

There's a huge insecurity going on here and you dont know what it is. I'm guessing he's convinced himself you're going to cheat and possible also discovered something about himself he really doesn't like. It sounds like going could potentially cost you your marriage here so do consider that carefully. Maybe have a chat and get him to seek counselling in return for you delaying the trip. This place will almost certainly tell you your husband can screw himself and just go of course.

I'd suggest OP's husband make a private note with HR about the behavior. Not for disciplinary action initially, but so his side of the story is on the record and the first that's heard in case it escalates.

Good for your husband for shutting that down. I would have done the same. I've gone out with too many females in that past that would call me Jealous, controlling and insecure if I brought something like this up to them about there male coworker always around them. Good to see what looks like mainly females not shaming OP for this, or maybe because roles are reversed, IDK.

Good for OPs husband. It's amazing how when you meet someone who shares the same principals and values as you, all those insults are not a thing. You both have respect for each other.

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Explain to him all the ways you do those things for him. Guide him to be more like you.

Uh, you might be doing fwb wrong.